Rorshokito: A Simple Way to Create Community
In a world where we spend so much time online, many of us are missing the feeling of real conversation. The kind where you meet people you do not already know, share ideas, and walk away renewed, connected, and ready for more. A Rorshokito is a way to hold a gathering designed to do this. It is a small, in person, human-scale experience that connects people who are curious about the world and want to think together, not to debate or perform.
It’s not a conference with panels; those who join are not differentiated into speakers and audience. It is not a networking event in which individuals seek to connect with other individuals for mutual benefit, although that will certainly happen naturally. It doesn’t really have a specific goal other than to create a community, usually in a place, and usually around a topic or group.
The name comes from the larger Rorshok organization, which focuses on new ways to build community. The “ito” makes it a smaller specific version of community building, a clear specific way for anybody so motivated to simply create a community.
At its heart, Rorshokito is a structure for a few hours of shared thinking. The goal is not to reach agreement but to get to know each other and then explore questions and ideas from different sides and see what happens when smart, curious people are given a structure, a location, some time, and a little trust.
How It Works
First, somebody needs to decide they will hold a Rorshokito. Ideally they can start out with a small group of people who would be interested to hold one and can help, particularly with the invitations. They need to decide a topic or a group (or both) a place, and a time. If there is a topic, it should be brief and clear. If the Rorshokito is for a group, it might be the alumni of a high school or university, or people who speak a particular language in a particular place, or people in a specific profession. A Rorshokito can be held as a part, usually at the start, of a bigger conference, reunion, or event.
But within the Rorshokito, there are no “plenary sessions”. They are a collection of small groups usually of four people. So the location should be a place where there can be several small group discussions, a collection of blankets in designated places in a public park, a collection of cafes near each other on a street or in a neighborhood or mall, different rooms in a coworking space, school, community center, or venue.
The host needs to decide how to invite people, it can be completely public and advertised with posters, a website, or social media, or semi-private where people who hear about it can invite whoever they want but people who want to join are asked to say who they heard about it from, or it can be by invitation only. It can be for any number of people but is best for between fifteen and one hundred people.
People who want to join probably fill out an on-line form that explains what will happen and commit to join. When the topic, group, time, and place have been decided, the host sets it up as an admin on the Rorshokito software. They put in information and share a link with those who have committed to join.
Those who receive the link will be given prompts so that they answer flour questions, 1) where they have lived for more than a year, 2) what are they good at or know lots about, 3) what they wish they were good at and knew more about, and 4) what they enjoy spending their time doing.
When they have finished answering those questions, they propose brief relevant questions they would like to discuss at the Rorshokito itself. They can propose from zero to five questions.
People are not used to gatherings that require some engagement or involvement beforehand, but each person who comes to a Rorshokito must complete the first round for the second round to commence. Some, who indicated that they wanted to join, may drop out simply because they didn’t complete the first round.
Next those who completed the first round will get a new link. In this they will see the answers to the four questions that the other joiners gave, each set of answers on one screen. They won’t see pictures, names or any other identifying information, only the answers. With that they will choose how interested they are in connecting with those individuals.
After they have gone through all of those, each joiner will see each of the proposed discussion questions on an individual screen. They will choose which of those they are most interested in discussing. It is quick, easy, and fun to do all of these on a phone.
Some people may complete both rounds, but then, due to an emergency, not be able to attend the actual Rorshokito itself. It’s critical that they tell the organizers two days before, so that they will not be built into the gameplan for the day itself.
Usually around twenty four hours before the start of the gathering itself, the admin will run the software and generate and print a document with a single page for each person who will join the next day. It is very important for those who join to be on time since almost everybody will be meeting for the first time, and they will be in small groups so uncertainty about whether a joiner is just late or will actually not show up is really unpleasant for the dynamics of the small groups.
Upon arrival and check in, each joiner will be given a unique sheet of paper with their individual gameplan for the gathering that will tell them what they need to know, the guidelines and norms, where to be when to discuss what with who, a map, and finally, what happens at the end and afterwards.
After check in and receiving the paper, the Thresholds commence, there will usually be two to four of them. In these, the people who most wanted to meet each other will meet in a group of four to discuss for thirty minutes a designated question, interesting but not too heavy. Each will have a randomly designated Anchor who will keep to the guidelines.
There is not much time between each discussion, so it is very important to end on time so that people can go to the next one and be on time.
After the Thresholds are Seminars, usually between one and three. These are one hour discussions, usually with four people discussing questions that have been proposed and chosen by those joining the Rorshokito. Again facilitated by a designated Anchor.
At the end there is a checkout, and ideally a mixer in which people can chat and follow up.
And for those who came for the whole Rorshokito there will be an online location where the group can connect with each other. Everybody is of course welcome to connect by any other digital platform they want, but there will be a specially built and designated one that will start for those who want to join immediately after the session.
Why and What it Means
Structure and hierarchy are different. Social events like parties are usually not formally structured or hierarchical. Many people enjoy that, particularly those who know many of the people there. Others enjoy that less, particularly if they don’t know many people. And they are neither designed for sharing ideas or for building communities. Conferences, where most people don’t know each other, are usually very structured and very hierarchical. Meeting over a meal is great, but restaurants require money, homes require cooking, and are usually for people all known well by the host. Rorshokitos are very structured but not hierarchical. So those who join design it and meet in small groups as equals, and in the end have had a shared experience.
Beforehand, those who join will have almost no identifying information about the others, this creates an uncommon openness and equality among participants, Preconceptions and power differentials are left aside; it is easier to focus on what is said rather than who is saying it. And it is arranged so that people will speak in equal amounts.
At the checkout there will be an online place that those present can join and communicate and follow-up if they want, and however they want. It is not at all mandatory to join. Normally, for others to join that online group they will need to attend a Rorshokito. Those from the Rorshokito that launched a community can come to as many as they’d like if more are held.
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