Saturday's teas were
Akito Sohma, which we've had before and liked, and
Shigure, which we hadn't tried before but turned out well.
We also noted that
Hatori's tea smells medicinal, and now checking the ingredients, I can see why. We are likely to save that one for when someone feels sick.
I am currently sick but not that kind of stuffy nose, sore throat, fever illness that wants a ginger-lemon-mint concoction. (I have called a doctor. Conclusion: It's a virus-something that's going around. Treat the symptoms. Get rest & drink liquids; take OTC meds that seem appropriate.)
I haven't decided if I feel guilty spending substantial time every Saturday traveling to & from KtE's place and just chatting while we have tea and snacks (there are many, many things I am Not Getting Done for this), or if this is Valuable Rest Time so I don't hit burnout.
...I may have already hit burnout. Someone posted a thing on Tumblr about it and I wound up thinking, oh. Those are. Those are my symptoms that I've been wanting to figure out what to do about.
So I looked around online, and discovered the following things:
1) Burnout, like lack of sleep, does not have any workaround solutions, no shortcuts. The solution is DO LESS STUFF. Relax the schedule. Possibly, do NO stuff for a while. (...Like anyone has time for that.)
2) Also like lack of sleep, recovery is long and slow and may not ever reach pre-burnout levels of productivity.
3) Aaaaaallllll the job-related news, psych, and listicle sites believe "burnout" is related to
having a paying job; whatever level of "I have been overwhelmed for so long that I am now numb and just going through the motions" that SAHMs get, gets no mention in those articles despite sharing a fuckton of symptoms with people who work 60-hour weeks and are expected to be on call at night for multiple years.
4) "Mom Burnout" does have its own collection of articles, including some handwavy notes that this can be a medical problem. These do not connect to the business side of things. You are apparently allowed to have one or the other form of burnout; having both a job and home responsibilities is not actually possible, or it doesn't lead to stress, or something like that.
(It is really, really weird how solid the schism is.)
5) The "tips and fixes" articles for mom burnout almost never include "demand that your partner do half of the laundry." They're all about taking breaks, scheduling downtime, keeping ties with supportive friends, and getting a hobby. Sometimes they mention "discuss the issue with your partner" just like the job ones say "discuss the issue with your manager."
Chronic burnout is recognized as a problem; solutions offered are individualistic ("have you tried mindfulness exercises? we have an app!") and based on "coping" rather than "here is how to rearrange your whole life's priorities so you're not caught in something that will push you to burnout" much less "here is what needs to change in society-at-large so that burnout become a rare thing among hyper-focused people, rather than a common result of having such diverse and draining hobbies as 'a job' and 'a family.'"
Anyway. While I'm trying to sort out what level of burnout I have had, and potentially still have, I think I'm going to continue to attend tea parties.