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Jan. 1st, 2022 01:30 pm
elf: Rainbow sparkly fairy (Rainbow Fairy)
Welcome to my journal. I've had one of these things for over 18 years, so I suppose it's time to put up one of those "About Me" posts.

Short intro bits:
  • Jump in anywhere. I don't care if comments are off-topic; I don't mind getting comments on incredibly old posts. You don't have to introduce yourself first.
  • Strangers: please be polite. Excessively rude comments may be mocked or deleted at my whim. Or both. I will decide what's "excessively rude." Anon comments are screened to allow me to decide without stressing out my other guests. If you're not sure what the standards are, feel free to browse the archives first.
  • Contents are random. This journal doesn't have a theme; I don't stick to specific topics. However, I often post about copyright activism, fandom, gaming, and religion. (Not all the "religion" posts will be labeled as such.)
  • CNTW ("Choose not to warn") - I often don't keyword-tag for triggery topics, although I try to put anything too intense inside a cut tag. I try to be mindful of what shows up on people's read lists but my own space sometime has graphic talk without warnings.
  • Links are okay. Anything public is okay to link to; asking is not necessary. (For that matter, private posts are okay to link to, but I'm not opening it up because someone wants to see it.)
General remix permission (from my AO3): I grant blanket permission for my fanworks to be used transformatively, interpreted broadly: remixed, sequeled, translated (although I'd really like to be notified about this), podficced, fic'd, filked, artified, vidded (is that even possible?) or otherwise used as a base for other fannish works, as long as no money is involved. If there's money involved, please contact me. I'm not going to fret over podfic-for-charity or fanart being sold, if any of my works managed to inspire that; I'd mostly just like to know.

My specific interests and so on are inside )
elf: Life's a die, and then you bitch. (Gamer Geek)
There's a solo TTRPG: Cage of Sand, "A time loop horror TTRPG for one or more players." I got it in the Racial Justice Bundle back in 2020 and promptly ignored it for several years (like most of the 12,000+ games I've picked up in game bundles).

Recently, I picked up a tarot deck specifically for solo TTRPGs: the Calandra Tarot (it's pretty but not one I'd want to use for divination), and went looking through my archives for a tarot-based solo game that wasn't a hack of Anamnesis. Not that there's anything wrong with Anamnesis - I like it very much; I've tried it; I've made my own hack of it. But I wanted to try something else, and after some sorting of the Big Spreadsheet o Game Bundles, I found this one.

So I decided to try it )
elf: Computer chip with location dot (You Are Here)
A friend asked me if I worked in an office (yes) and warned me that AI is probably coming from my job.

I told him no, I am very not worried:
1) I have a union, and
2) My company works with a lot of confidential personal info that needs careful handling, and
3) AI cannot do my job.

AI cannot even attempt to do my job.

I do document formatting & processing, and while I'm sure there are AI advocates who think they can have AI do that, it's because they've never done those.

Read more... )
elf: Life's a die, and then you bitch. (Gamer Geek)
I ran a Whole Game Scenario, more than a single session, for the first time in more than 20 years. Maybe 30 years.

...Brindlewood Bay is the first game I've actively wanted to run in decades. Played in someone else's game first to figure out the mechanics, and established that

1) Wow, I did not like how they ran the game
2) No, I mean... they ignored the base starting premise of the game, which is "you are retired old ladies." (They decided you can be retired old men instead. I very much do not like this; retired old men are treated very differently from old ladies. It changes how the cozy aspects of the game works.)
3) Aside from that, did not like the GM's call about what actions we were taking, and didn't like that he pushed us into some actions.
4) It was an entirely new experience for me to think "I could run this better."
5) So the next time one of my groups was kinda between games, I said "I, uh, have been kinda wanting to run a thing..."

And I stole the plot from The Untamed )
elf: Life's a die, and then you bitch. (Gamer Geek)
There is Drama going around in the indie TTRPG community. Some people accuse a game designer of being a jerk, a cheat (someone who doesn't pay contractors, not someone involved in relationship shenanigans), a liar, and weaponizing their fame to harass other people in the community.

Others say the above comments are nothing but hate-speech aimed at a person of a marginalized identity, and this person has written great works and brings creativity and fresh insights to the community at large.

I'd love to figure out which is true, or if they both have elements of truth.

The details are apparently covered in a Rascal article, possibly some posts at Medium, and of course, in multiple Discords. If I joined the right ones, I might be able to find out who actually said what. (I will not be joining any Discords over this.)

I can confirm:
• Creator in question has written some amazing stuff, not only much-lauded but also unique improvements to the TTRPG-sphere
• People I respect (but do not know personally) are calling aforementioned creator a scoundrel and abuser

My analysis )
elf: We have met the enemy and he is us. (Met the enemy)
Found a nice gaming article on Bluesky (Three Tiers of RPG Publishing), which led me to another article, which I found insightful and clever (and a bit sad, as accurate talk about economics these days tends to be), and then hit the bit that blew my mind.

They Killed Normal and Called It Progress: "Julia Roberts, Applebee's, Bandcamp, your manager, and the death of everything in between. (Also, Sweetgreen is the A24 of dining and I will die on this hill.)"
Have you noticed that the middle is gone from everything? Restaurants, companies, careers, music, retail, the economy itself. What replaced it is a barbell: one enormous weight on each end, nothing in the center, and most of us trying not to get crushed by the bar.

And the replacement does look better every single time, I grant you that. The A24 film is better than the $40 million adult drama from 2007, yeah, we can all agree on that. The Sweetgreen bowl is better than the Applebee’s chicken parm, sure. Your favorite Substack is sharper than the mid-list magazine that folded in 2019. Every replacement is a genuine upgrade. But every replacement serves fewer and fewer people.
That's not the mind-blowing part. That's the thesis, the baseline, the part that he spends half of the ~3000 word essay explaining, giving examples of, making neat comparisons across different industries.

It's amazing that it doesn't get boring because it truly is the same damn pattern )
elf: Lan Wangji and Wei Wuxian stand back to back on a white foggy mountaintop. Wangji has his sword down but read; Wuxian is preparing to play his flute. (Untamed)
I'm writing a Brindlewood Bay adventure based on MDZS/The Untamed.

Or rather, based on one small detail of MDZS/The Untamed, using a modern-AU setting: Investigating the death of Lan Furen. (Adventure title: Lost in the Clouds. Complexity 7. Would be 6, but the death is 30-ish years old, so they're working with some difficulty.)

Brindlewood Bay has a different approach: Instead of "GM decides on the details of the murder and sets a bunch of clues that the players have to find and figure out," the GM sets the location, a list of suspects, a list of clues - and the players then come up with their own idea of who did what. Then they roll. If they roll high enough, they were correct and have solved the murder. (If they roll almost high enough, they were correct but now there is a complication - the murderer is getting away, or attacks them, or someone is in danger because of what they've revealed, etc.)

I don't have to decide what happened to Lan Furen to have it as the base of a murder mystery here. I just have to figure out who might've been involved, invent some clues, and throw them at the players.

It's been more difficult than I thought. )
elf: A colorful puzzle game box with a multicolor controller at its base (Video Games)
No ICE in Minnesota bundle at itch.io: 1400+ games for $10 donation that goes to the Immigrant Law Center of Minnesota.

Notable items include:
  • Baba Is You (video game)
  • A Good Snowman Is Hard to Build (video game)
  • Calico (video game)
  • ECO MOFOS!! (TTRPG)
  • Bump in the Dark: Revised Edition (TTRPG)
  • Tangled Blessings (solo TTRPG)
  • Be Seeing You (GM-less TTRPG)
  • Rosewood Abby (Brindlewood style TTRPG)
  • Three Magic Eyeland collections (...nobody else may care about stereograms but I love them)
elf: A typewriter with a single page with the word "Story" on it. (Typewriter)
From this thread at Bluesky - When people ask how to get into GA SF I always say that the right way is via some of those fat "Best Of" short fiction collections.

Long discussion, many comments, mostly agreeing that yep, the way to get people into SF is anthologies, not novels, especially "best of" anthologies rather than whatever theme-of-the-day was popular. Also many people agreeing that many of "the classics" do not hold up today, and "Heinlein juveniles + the Foundation trilogy" is not a good suggestion for a young teen who might be interested in scifi now.

So... if you were building an anthology of The Great Science Fiction, with a focus specifically on non-SF readers who might be interested, what would you put in it?

Some limitations may be in order )
elf: Computer chip with location dot (You Are Here)
Eaglecon is Cal State LA's student-focused science fiction convention.

It's very small - mid-week, two days only, 8 programming items the first day and 6 the second. Mostly one-hour events with 15 minute breaks between. Programming is over for the day by 4:30; there is no late-afternoon/evening schedule. Daytime student event.

I'll post later about the convention itself. General LA-related thoughts:

1) It mostly feels like home (SF Bay Area) except there is only one garbage can in each room - not three (trash, recycling, compost).

2) I am the only person I can see wearing mask.

3) Temperature's nice. I brought only a light denim jacket and it's been fine, a little warm at mid-day but okay even then, and it keeps the sun off my arms.

4) My prep would've been different if I'd known the room had a microwave and fridge. (I could've called to check; was not up for it.) Today on the way back to the hotel, I stopped into a Chinese supermarket and picked up some kind of beef-veggie rice bowl & frozen steamed buns with sesame filling, both of which can be heated up in the microwave.

5) Lots of Chinese stores nearby, with signs in both Chinese and English. I read zero Chinese but I can recognize the word "no" (の) in Japanese, and I didn't see it. It's common enough that I'd expect it of there are a lot of signs, so I am assuming the language I'm seeing is Chinese.

6) I may stop in to the Chinese supermarket on the way out tomorrow and grab short-grain rice. It's hard to find short-grain rice in American supermarkets. I will have to see how packing goes and if I can leave space for a 2-lb or 5-lb bag of rice.
elf: John Egbert with a rocketpack, captioned "THIS IS STUPID" in all caps. (This is stupid)
Last night, bluesky exploded with the discovery that itch.io has delisted/shadowbanned pretty much all its "adult" games - they don't show up in a search anymore, even if you have the 'show me adult content' turned on, even if you are the game's creator.

They are still listed on the creator's pages; they are still in the bundles they've been in, and the "search title/author/tag" on the bundle pages still works.

Some games have been removed entirely - with a claim that they violate the TOS and therefore the creators can't receive payment, so itch will be just keeping their money thankyouverymuch.

After a mad scramble to figure out "what's going on and why," Itch mentioned payment processor issues on its Discord (which is going wild with drama; it does NOT have enough moderators for this), and eventually released a statement:
We have “deindexed” all adult NSFW content from our browse and search pages. We understand this action is sudden and disruptive, and we are truly sorry for the frustration and confusion caused by this change.

Recently, we came under scrutiny from our payment processors regarding the nature of some content hosted on itch.io. Due to a game titled No Mercy, which was temporarily available on itch.io before being banned back in April, the organization Collective Shout launched a campaign against Steam and itch.io, directing concerns to our payment processors about the nature of certain content found on both platforms.
Itch instantly caved to their "Warriors for Innocence."

Specific game info )
elf: A purple rook with wings spread; the word "Glitch" above it and "Don't Panic" below. (Glitch - Don't Panic)
1. Chaos. Last night, the building across the street caught on fire.

Again.

It's an abandoned/defunct factory; this is the... fifth? time it's caught on fire in the last couple of years. (The owner who acquired it after the previous owner died has been trying to sell it for far more than anyone wants to pay.)

2. Discord. This morning: Skipped my GURPS game (sigh) for round 3 of 4 of the Seattle Worldcon virtual business meeting. 3.75 hours of intense Roberts Rules neepery wrapped around 16 action items. 14 passed, 2 failed. I took notes on (1) everything that happened and (2) How To Bog Down A Worldcon Business Meeting, should I ever be so inclined.

There are a substantial number of people involved for whom Roberts Rules is apparently their main fandom. The Worldcon Business Meeting is their Pennsic. Some of them get annoyed at people who aren't interested in RRONR procedures as much as they want changes to Worldcon rules.

Also I have volunteered to be on two committees; we'll see if I get accepted to either.

3. Confusion. Family birthday party. Eldest daughter came over to cook tacos yay. Much bustling around a small kitchen with people no longer used to having three butts in a one-butt sized space.

Tacos were yummy. Cake and ice cream were yummy. French-press coffee was yummy; I wound up thinking "I should do that more often" and then remembered why I don't - because the cleanup is a hassle, and also, I prefer the coffee hotter than the press makes it. (5 minutes of sitting in a glass cylinder is cooler than I prefer.) But it's nice once in a while.

4. Bureaucracy. 2 hrs of OTW Board public meeting. (The meeting is 1 hr, but I'm involved as a volunteer, so had to be there in advance.) It ran short - instead of the normal "dozen questions emailed in advance + 10-20 questions asked in session," it was "5 questions sent in advance and only 4 more asked in session." All questions answered during the meeting; none left over to get posted on the website later.

5. Aftermath. Kid the Elder has gone home with doggo via Lyft; I am trying to catch up on the several chat channels with all sorts of stuff in them. Also now trying to figure out what writing deadlines I have pressing that have been shoved aside during prep for these two meetings.

Now what? )
elf: Red & blue faces (Face Off)
I'd forgotten how much I love https://theyfightcrime.org.

He's a lonely skateboarding shaman with a winning smile and a way with the ladies. She's a bloodthirsty wisecracking wrestler who hides her beauty behind a pair of thick-framed spectacles. They fight crime!
He's an unconventional soccer-playing grifter in a wheelchair. She's an orphaned foul-mouthed socialite from out of town. They fight crime!
He's an oversexed ninja werewolf fleeing from a secret government programme. She's an enchanted snooty advertising executive with a knack for trouble. They fight crime!

something-something fic prompts )

FAPA blues

Jun. 16th, 2025 08:39 am
elf: A typewriter with a single page with the word "Story" on it. (Typewriter)
Got the most recent FAPA mailing, #351. It's fewer than 60 pages. While we're up to 21 members I think (I don't have it with me right now) - up from the 14-ish when I joined a few years ago - the page count has dropped recently, possibly in part because the Org Editor can no longer print people's entries for them. (He retired and no longer has access to the work printers.) So the overseas members are no longer sending in quarterly submissions.

defining terms )

FAPA's contribution requirement is 8 pages a year, which can be 1 double-sided sheet of paper per quarter. This was not particularly onerous even in the days of hectographs. It is, however, apparently enough of a hassle that several current members only technically meet it - sending in that single sheet a quarter, and it's only a page and a half, and it's in 14-pt type and includes a picture covering a quarter of the page. If there were still a waiting list, they'd be bumped for failing to meet the contrib requirements. Since there hasn't been a waiting list this century, this is not an issue.

There are scans of some past mailings (or rather, parts of them) and scans of Fantasy Amateur, the official org zine (aka, the index & list of members), which stops right at the point where membership started dropping below the max of 65.

...Anyone want to join a venerated scifi institution that's been fading since the dawn of the WWW?

Requirements:
* Send 25 copies (currently) to the OE, minimum 8 pgs/year; can be sent quarterly, annually, or anything in between. More details inside )
elf: Life's a die, and then you bitch. (Gamer Geek)
I have been reading the TTRPG space on bluesky.

1) Everything is commercial. Soooo much "buy my thing." You might think there'd be a mix of "buy my thing" and "hey come watch/listen to our playthroughs" but no. It's all "buy my thing."

2) It's really, really hard to avoid D&D and Pathfinder.

3) I had managed to forget how wank in TTRPG spaces goes down. It's never just "D&D has taken over the hobby and that sucks." It has to include "people who play D&D are stupid/cowards/wimps/conformist shills." Possibly with a side of, "if people were paying attention to what's good, they would buy my thing..."

(I do not like D&D. I do not play D&D. I have thought many negative things about D&D, and about D&D evangelists. I have never thought the only reason people play D&D was because they were too stupid to look at other game systems. I am damn well aware there is a ton of inertia involved, plus the hassle of convincing your entire gaming group to try something different.)

4) We don't have any shared vocabulary and this is a problem. Or rather: We have some words - crunchy, rules-lite, narrative game, OSR, "role-play vs roll-play," meta-gaming, RAW, probably a few more - but we have zero agreement on what they actually mean, on which games or play styles fall under which term.

5) Unlike the fanfic communities, there has been no serious meta looking into what's changed when a former on-paper hobby went digital. There are blog posts and such, but they're scattered as hell. And 2/3 of the discussion is weird hand-wringing about what people will or won't buy, not about how the hobby itself changes when the rules are on a screen rather than paper.

+1) If there are discussion groups about TTRPGs-as-a-fandom, I can't find them. Dammit.

+2) Don't get me started on the gleeblor.
elf: Life's a die, and then you bitch. (Gamer Geek)
I've been getting more connected to TTRPG communities, both playing groups and game development. I made a solo TTRPG about Glitch, using the Carta system - Lost World of Ur for Solovember, and I've also submitted it to a jam that's going to put it in a bundle soon. (As soon as they get approval from the final person, I gather.) I joined the Gaming Like It's 1929 jam (this year's "make a game based on something now entering the public domain") and made The Seventh Artist.

I'm in a Tuesday night Monster of the Week game and a Friday night Fate game, and my in-person GURPS group is restarting tomorrow. (I doubt it'll be weekly.) There's another Fate game I'd like to join but it's currently Mondays starting at 7pm Eastern, and Mondays, I'm in the office and don't get home until 5:30 Pacific at the earliest.

Anyway. Much TTRPG-related activity. Happily watching the discussions on Bluesky. And I got to see something I vaguely knew about, from a distance, but being involved in the fanfic world had sheltered me:

Everyone has gone commercial about their hobbies.

Except fanfic. But I'm visiting non-fanfic corners of the web. )
elf: A flowery teacup with a full spoon being held above it, dripping honey into the cup (Tea - Honey)
Yesterday's tea club was virtual, because the weather is icky and I didn't want to be out after dark in the rain. So we had tea - KtE had some kind of chai, and later a lapsang souchong; I had Bone Daddy which is one of the "always keep this in the house" blends. (We may not always succeed at that, but it's very much "buy it again when we run out or notice we're getting low.")

And we played multiplayer games online. Spent some time dealing with tech issues - my audio is weird; Steam decided to switch to Big Picture mode (I probably tapped the wrong thing but wow that was painful); we had to pick a Discord spot that KtY could join later, and so on.

We tried for Don't Starve Together first, because we were hoping KtY would wake up to join us. She didn't, and I have established that I do not like survival games with no point other than survival. We had it on easy mode; I played until I died twice - once to a tentacle thing lashing out of dark/corrupted land, and then... to the same tentacle, when going back to pick up my stuff.

I could've gone back a second time and been more careful: Grab 1-2 items, back off, dodge in and grab an item or two, etc. But by that time, I was frustrated by both the survival activities and the lack of goals. If I'm going to wander around in the Horror Woods full of Creepy Things and collect sticks and berries and logs and flowers - at some point, I want to build a house and set up a safe zone. I gather that's not what the game is about, so we quit.

Then we played Bokura, which I liked a great deal more. I like puzzle games. I don't like pixel art (like, I normally refuse to even consider playing pixel-art games) but this one turned out okay. We didn't finish the game but we did play for five solid hours, and we loved trying to coordinate our activities over Discord when we got separated. I'd love to find more games like it; recs welcome.

I also picked up a copy of Astroneer, which is on sale for another few days. I like shape-the-world games and if I could tolerate Minecraft's art style, I'd play it for days.
elf: A flowery teacup with a full spoon being held above it, dripping honey into the cup (Tea - Honey)
So, this is a bit late, because today is Tea Club #14 and I have been so busy & frazzled I forgot to post about last Saturday's meeting.

We let Joi look at (read: sniff) all the Fruits Basket teas and decided on Kagura Sohma, which we've had before and enjoyed. It was the one we picked up because "okay we got the main character teas we think we'll like (...plus one we got because we want his tea and don't expect to enjoy it) so now what else is in the set that looks good?"

Ayame Sohma is the tea we expect to tolerate and got because we wanted the cute little box. It smells... very strong, and we suspect the flavors will clash somewhat. Which is not inappropriate.

This is Ayame. (The snake that makes an appearance is Ayame. He's a shapeshifter. Most of them are shapeshifters.)

We also had rice fritters from Wahpepah's Kitchen, which is KtY & my favorite restaurant right now, and we're worried that the hours keep getting reduced. A few months ago, it was open until 6 most weekdays. Then until 4 on the weekdays and 6 on the weekends. Then 11-2 on weekdays and 11-4 on weekends. Now... closed weekdays, open 11-2 weekends only. I really hope that this is "less business in winter" and not "on the verge of shutting down"; we absolutely love their food. And KtY is gluten-sensitive (maybe celiac, maybe not) and this is the first place we've been to where she doesn't have to be careful about ordering. The only things they have with gluten are the frybread (we have not tried it) and cornbread (which I've tried). We have loved everything we've tried here. I'm especially fond of the sweet potato tostada.
elf: A flowery teacup with a full spoon being held above it, dripping honey into the cup (Tea - Honey)
I arrived after the first pot had been made but was still warm; we had Dosti Tea because Eldri is visiting for now. (I am about halfway through RRR; we chatted a little about that and some about other Bollywood & Telegu movies.)

Had a second pot of Dosti and then Bone Daddy. Both very nice.

The day was scattered. Our place had been without hot water or gas for several days - the day after the election, our building caught fire (or rather, a nearby fire spread to us), and while it was put out fairly quickly, they shut off the power afterward (2 hrs) and then shut off the gas to check the lines for leaks.

...They finally did the inspection to get it back on Saturday at about 9pm. We have gas to the stove, and hot water now. We don't have a heater, because they turned on the heater to check it and said OH FUCK NO that is not the shape those flames should be. We are capping that off and putting it on the repair list.

(I am unsurprised; I have long suspected problems with the heater. But it's very frustrating because it's only recently turned cold at night.)

Anyway. Tea club meeting was a bit morose and tense, as would be expected. We don't want to talk politics but it's hard to think of anything else.
elf: A flowery teacup with a full spoon being held above it, dripping honey into the cup (Tea - Honey)
I arrived late to the tea party and they already had a chai blend brewing, so I had that. I'd brought Bone Daddy with the intention of having that for the second pot, but Eldri was there and she had Niti tea - so went with that; it was great.

I am approximately 1/3 of the way through RRR; maybe I can watch the rest of that soon.

Am I watching the news today? OH FUCK NO. I have joined the Solovember 2024 game jam and am building a solo TTRPG based on Glitch, using the Carta SRD. And in doing so, discovered that GlitchTheGame.com is down. :( Looks like Slack has decided to finally remove it.

There are encyclopedia listings at Children of Ur and OddGiants (I am too lazy to scrounge up links but they are both at the obvious places); OddGiants is more complete but CofU has a few details the other one lacks.

Carta is a system based on laying out cards face-down in a grid, moving from one to the next, flipping it face-up and consulting a rulebook for what happens. 7 of Hearts might be "you have found some ruins on the edge of town; gain 1 artifact." Or the Queen of Clubs might be, "You come face to face with the Dark Sorceress - lose 2 life points, and describe how you escape her evil realm."

It suggests two possible main purposes - either "survival," where you start with energy points (life, heart, courage, whatever) that get depleted, and you're trying to reach a goal card before you run out, or "collection," where you gather resources as you go and need to have 4 of them before you meet the Final Boss. Both systems have the option of die rolls along the way.

...I'm combining both. I could use (1) playtester volunteers (will need a deck of cards; no Glitch knowledge required and (2) suggestions of Favorite Bits of Glitch to include. Favorite street names are welcome; each card is going to reference a particular street.

I will be leaving out a LOT. I am limiting the regions to Groddle Isle, the Misc Isles (Ix/Uralia/Ilmenskie), Firebogs, and Ancestral Lands. Gathering will be very, very simplified (and still fairly complex for Carta - I'm using 3 categories of items). I am spending a ridiculous amount of time writing up "roll for item" tables that have ZERO effect on gameplay, because I will enjoy using them later.

Basic premise is something like, "you have been isekai'd into the empty world of a long-vanished video game. Explore, enjoy, and figure out how to get yourself out safely."
elf: A flowery teacup with a full spoon being held above it, dripping honey into the cup (Tea - Honey)
Saturday's teas were Akito Sohma, which we've had before and liked, and Shigure, which we hadn't tried before but turned out well.

We also noted that Hatori's tea smells medicinal, and now checking the ingredients, I can see why. We are likely to save that one for when someone feels sick.

I am currently sick but not that kind of stuffy nose, sore throat, fever illness that wants a ginger-lemon-mint concoction. (I have called a doctor. Conclusion: It's a virus-something that's going around. Treat the symptoms. Get rest & drink liquids; take OTC meds that seem appropriate.)

I haven't decided if I feel guilty spending substantial time every Saturday traveling to & from KtE's place and just chatting while we have tea and snacks (there are many, many things I am Not Getting Done for this), or if this is Valuable Rest Time so I don't hit burnout.

...I may have already hit burnout. Someone posted a thing on Tumblr about it and I wound up thinking, oh. Those are. Those are my symptoms that I've been wanting to figure out what to do about.

So I looked around online, and discovered the following things:
1) Burnout, like lack of sleep, does not have any workaround solutions, no shortcuts. The solution is DO LESS STUFF. Relax the schedule. Possibly, do NO stuff for a while. (...Like anyone has time for that.)
2) Also like lack of sleep, recovery is long and slow and may not ever reach pre-burnout levels of productivity.
3) Aaaaaallllll the job-related news, psych, and listicle sites believe "burnout" is related to having a paying job; whatever level of "I have been overwhelmed for so long that I am now numb and just going through the motions" that SAHMs get, gets no mention in those articles despite sharing a fuckton of symptoms with people who work 60-hour weeks and are expected to be on call at night for multiple years.
4) "Mom Burnout" does have its own collection of articles, including some handwavy notes that this can be a medical problem. These do not connect to the business side of things. You are apparently allowed to have one or the other form of burnout; having both a job and home responsibilities is not actually possible, or it doesn't lead to stress, or something like that.

(It is really, really weird how solid the schism is.)

5) The "tips and fixes" articles for mom burnout almost never include "demand that your partner do half of the laundry." They're all about taking breaks, scheduling downtime, keeping ties with supportive friends, and getting a hobby. Sometimes they mention "discuss the issue with your partner" just like the job ones say "discuss the issue with your manager."

Chronic burnout is recognized as a problem; solutions offered are individualistic ("have you tried mindfulness exercises? we have an app!") and based on "coping" rather than "here is how to rearrange your whole life's priorities so you're not caught in something that will push you to burnout" much less "here is what needs to change in society-at-large so that burnout become a rare thing among hyper-focused people, rather than a common result of having such diverse and draining hobbies as 'a job' and 'a family.'"

Anyway. While I'm trying to sort out what level of burnout I have had, and potentially still have, I think I'm going to continue to attend tea parties.
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