Delighted Antici…..pation.

I’m very much looking forward to this coming (hehe, cumming) week! K and I have decided that this week he is going to assume a dominant role for the whole time, and for the first time I have RULES to live by! I am so very excited by this, as I am basically a submissive who dominates because it makes Him happy.

The rules I have been given at this point for this coming week are as follows –

  1. I must wear makeup each day, which must be applied before I start work at 9.15am. The idea of this is to help me feel sexier, and to make more time for myself in the mornings. I also need to send proof of this.
  2. I must wear sexy knickers every day. No old/stained/unsexy underwear for this sub! Each day, I need to share pictures of this on a new sexy Snapchat account. (If you want to see my underwear and boobs and other sexy things, find me at KittyDagger)
  3. I need to find a substitute collar that can be worn for work. I am hoping to find a choker necklace to do this, maybe a tattoo choker. I should have one somewhere, but I can’t find it!
  4. Whenever possible, I must wear my *actual* leather collar. I can’t wear it for work, but any time outside of work I should be wearing by collar.
  5. One day this week, I must wear stockings & suspenders to work.
  6. Schoolgirl night – this is probably self-explanatory but I must dress as a schoolgirl for K one night.
  7. I must draft (not post!) an Adultwork profile to be an escort, with prices and what I will & won’t offer. This will be followed up with a ‘booking’ in the next few months, and I need to find an outfit for this.
  8. NO BULLET. This is mostly to help me with my masturbation quest, as I need to do something to break the cycle. (It’s not going well by the way).

There may be other challenges set on a daily basis, depending on how busy I/we are. I’ll probably post most days with updates my challenges.

Yours in delighted anticipation, KD xx

Master(bation) class of Me

I can’t masturbate. I’m lazy with my lady-garden, a novice with my nunu and inexperienced with my vajayjay.

I consider myself a sexually adventurous woman, fairly experienced and with a decent knowledge of how orgasm works, but I have never once managed to bring myself off using only my hands. I think it’s probably because I got my first vibrator relatively young, and I just never had the patience to do it myself when it was so easy! But I have decided that I need to connect with my clit and get to know her. How can I expect anyone else to touch her in the best way when I can’t do it myself? I’ve done a bit of online research on popular techniques, and I will be making sure I allow enough ‘me time’ to get to know my own genitals and find out what makes them tick and hopefully click.

I’m debating handing over all my vibrators to K for a couple of weeks to force myself in to ‘detox’ as inspired by Girl On The Net’s post about giving up her Doxy. I think I’ll see how I go first, and hand them over if I need to.

 

I can’t lie, I’m actually nervous about doing this. What if I can’t do it? I masturbated a fair bit as a teenager, but never managed to come. Rubbing against pillows, and finding the biggest thing in the bathroom I could fit inside my vagina.. I don’t recommend that, it ended with a bout of cystitis. I think it was a hairspray can.

Anyroadup, I’m gonna get my wank-on. Wish me luck.

KD xx

 

Full Throttle.

I have never liked tight things around my neck, turtle necks and chokers don’t find much space in my wardrobe. It just kind of freaks me out.
I can wear a collar with K, because he knows how I feel and is very good about how tightly it is fastened, and taking it off if I need. But I always used to hate it when he tried to touch my neck, either to tickle under my chin or for something more dominant. But recently, I’ve changed. I don’t know what’s caused it, but suddenly he can hold me down by my throat and all it does is turn me on hugely. I don’t know if in the last year of our relationship I have perhaps come to trust him more, particularly through our journey in BDSM. We’ve been together for over 7 years, living together for 5. I suppose it isn’t unexpected that our relationship is still growing and changing. It could also be that I’ve entered my 30s, allegedly the decade where a woman really learns who she is, and becomes a sexually confident butterfly, emerging from the uncertain chrysalis of her twenties. Or something.
All I know is that suddenly (in the last month) I have found that being held in a headlock, or having his hand on my neck gets the panties pinging. Especially during a rough session of fight-fucking.

Because he’s not a dick, and doesn’t actually want to strangle me he tends to put the pressure more on my collarbone & sternum than on my actual neck. Once or twice it’s made breathing a little more restricted, but it’s never stopped my breathing enough to be uncomfortable. The idea of breath play doesn’t appeal to me, but at least having enjoyed a little light strangling I can see where the attraction might come from.

I guess it’s like Stilton. Just because I didn’t like it when I was 25 didn’t mean I never would. I LOVE Stilton now. My tastes are still evolving as I grow and change.. perhaps there’s another kink out there that’s my red wine.

Maybe one day I’ll learn to like red wine, but not today.

KD xx

Dirty Talk (and why I don’t)

“Squirt your cum juice all over me”

“Ram your cock in my wet love-hole”

“Pump my pussy with your man meat”

I think it’s fair to say that I suck at dirty talk. When I think about what I want to say beforehand, it’s fine and I can be passably good. But the phrases that occur to me in the heat of the moment tend to sound like some 13-yr-old boys hormone soaked imaginings. I don’t tend to say them aloud, as the few times I have it’s resulted in hysterical laughter and a fair bit of embarrassment. I’m a big fan of laughter in the bedroom, but those kind of phrases tend to appear when I’m most into it, and that’s a mood killer. IMG_1074 (2)
Dirty talk can be so freaking hot. Whisper in my ear that I’m a naughty girl when we’re stood in the middle of Waitrose and they’ll likely be calling for a clean-up in Aisle 3. Call me a dirty bitch while you fingerfuck me and you’ll be wet to the elbow. Ask me to reciprocate much more than a ‘fuck yes’ during sex, and you’ll just pull a rib muscle from laughing.
If you get anything sensible from me when you’re actually fucking me, I’m probably not in to it. I almost certainly want you to be in to it, and I’m probably quite happy, but I ain’t blasting off to Planet O in the next few minutes. Heated silence, garbled nothings, or a contender for the Bad Sex in Fiction award and I’m possibly on the edge of glory.

I fail at sex talk. I fail SO HARD. I get so tongue-tied that I say nothing even when I want to. I can’t talk about fantasies in the moment. Don’t ask me what I’m thinking, because I’m not thinking! And if I am, you don’t want to hear what about, because it’s either how good your manstick feels in my cunthole or the washing up.

Double (ended) Trouble

Today’s review post is for the Doc Johnson Junior Veined 12 Inch Double Ended Dildo, which is a bit of a mouthful (ooh, matron!).

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Sadly, I’ve never been able to use this as a double-ender, but if you like a bit of length I fully recommend this product. It’s firm enough to penetrate easily without ‘wibbling’ all over the place, soft enough not to hurt if you’re pounding it in to yourself like a pneumatic drill, and flexible enough that it’s fun to helicopter around your head. It’s also got enough weight to it that you could clobber an intruder in your home around the head to reasonable effect! It’s my second choice of defence weapon after the spreader bar.

It’s made of Doc Johnsons Sil-a-Gel material, meaning it’s body safe, antibacterial, latex-free and pthalate free. **edit – this item is advertised as pthalate free, but since I wrote this, I’ve done some more reading on the topic of pthalates and the materials used in sex toys, and there is a question mark around many Doc Johnson items. I’d advise you to do your own reading and decide how you feel about these materials.**

This dildo has a ‘comfortable’ girth, without being slim-fitting. It fills me up nicely, without feeling stuffed. I love to go really hard with this toy, as I don’t hurt myself when/if I ram it against my cervix, unlike my favourite glass toys. I’ve had this toy for approximately 5 years, and never had any issues with the material breaking down, even though I haven’t stored it as well as I should.

As and when I get the opportunity to try this as a proper double-ender, I’ll update you on its performance.

If you want something with extra length, and ‘normal’ girth, this is an excellent feeling, affordable option.

Reality Check..

Oh, for the best laid plans of Mice and Women! As posted earlier, I was planning an excellent weekend of sexual exploration and fun.. but it seems my womb has decided to throw a massive bloody spanner in the works.. literally. (Literally bloody that is, not a literal spanner).

My planned sex toy packing has reduced to flavoured lube (for the blowjobs) and a Tenga egg. I totally should have still packed a spanker and a butt plug, but I was miffed with my feminine state, so didn’t.
I know it’s entirely possible to have sex on ones period, but I just find it ‘icky’, and I have tried to get over the ick-factor, but I just can’t! I can cope at the end, when it’s a light trickle, but in full flow it’s messy and I don’t like it, I tell ‘ee!

I can also go with a bit of self-lovin’ at lady-time, but I feel weird doing so in company. Overall, it’s probably the fault of the Patriarchy that I don’t like it, but it makes me feel awkward, and that’s most of what I care about.
Basically, sometimes life gets in the way of sex, and that’s fine. It’s just life. And it’s a bitch.
auntyflo
See ya later. Xx

Something for the weekend?

We’re going to London this weekend. We’re not specifically going for a ‘dirty’ weekend, but this is us, so we will be fitting some good sex in amongst the parkrun, west-end shows and general twatting around in London.
So.. how do you pack for a ‘dirty’ weekend? Well, it’s going to vary from one person to another depending on what you like, but it’s a fair bet it’s going to include lingerie and some kind of toys.
My preferred sleep-wear is sexy anyway, I’m much more likely to sleep in a cute satin nightie than Disney pyjamas, so I don’t need to take crazy amounts! However, I like to dress differently when I’m sub to when I’m Dom, and I don’t know which way the weekend is going to go.
I’ve got some new ‘sex’ dresses (this one and this one) and at least one of them will be going with me, if only because they’re easy to pack, light and compact. I’ll also take some accessories to go with it, like stockings and knickers. I’ll make sure the bra’s & knickers I have are both comfortable and sexy, so the combination should mean I have enough, we’re only there for two nights.
Toys – I’ll absolutely be taking the bullet, no question. I’m planning on taking some handcuffs, and probably a blindfold. We have some new nipple clamps to try out, and I expect we’ll take a butt plug and a dildo, and NEVER forget the lube.. just the essentials then.
That’s just me.. what about you?
If you need to revive the romance with your partner, maybe some lickable massage oils would give you a low-pressure way to reconnect. Don’t forget to check they’re condom friendly if that’s something you need!
For a couple just starting out, when you’re just introducing the idea of toys it can be a good idea to choose something a little less.. intimidating. Perhaps leave the Belladonna Bitch Fist for later.. although there is something to be said for a baptism of fire. I know I wang on about them, but a bullet and some lube are your best friends.
If your partner seems to have lost their mojo, lingerie has always worked for me, especially stockings, corseting or anything made of fishnet. Generally, ‘making an effort’ will (hopefully) be appreciated.
I’ll be doing an entire other post on lingerie to boost confidence and flatter different features, so if you’re unsure check that out in future.
Right, I’m off to put some washing on.. it’s a life of glamour!

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