What would you do? My partner always says, "We'll see," but never decides anything
What would you do? My partner always says, "We'll see," but never decides anythingThere are two words that can quietly stretch for weeks. "We'll see." Should we book the tickets? "We'll see." Should we invite your parents this weekend? "We'll see." Should we buy the flat? "We'll see." Should we talk about having children? "We'll see."At first, it sounds harmless. But when every important decision ends the same way, life starts feeling like it's permanently on pause.And after a while, you stop asking not because you've found the answer, but because you're tired of hearing the same one. We imagined a situation many women quietly experience and asked: What would you do if your partner always said, "We'll see," but never actually made a decision? Five women share what happened next."Our anniversary trip almost never happened" (Shreya, 27)For months, Shreya wanted to plan a short holiday. Every weekend she asked the same question. "Should I book the tickets?" Her boyfriend's answer never changed. "We'll see." She waited. Flight prices doubled. The hotel she wanted sold out. Finally, three days before their anniversary, he asked, "So... are we going somewhere?"Shreya looked at him and smiled. "I thought we were still seeing." He laughed at first. Then realized she'd stopped planning because she'd been waiting for him. That evening, they made a new rule. "If one of us asks a question, the other has 48 hours to give a real answer." "It sounds silly," she says. "But it's saved us from months of unnecessary waiting.""I realised I was planning a future by myself" (Ananya, 31)Ananya wasn't asking about restaurants. She was asking about life. Should they buy a house? "We'll see." Should they get married next year? "We'll see." Should they move closer to work? "We'll see." At first, she thought he simply needed time. But after almost a year, she realised something. "He wasn't choosing patience, he was avoiding decisions," says Ananya.One evening she asked him a question he'd never expected. "If the answer isn't yes right now, what needs to happen before it can become yes?" For the first time, they had a real conversation. "He admitted he was scared of making the wrong choice." "The school admission forms taught us a lesson" (Neha, 34) When it was time to choose a school for their daughter, Neha researched everything. She shortlisted schools. Visited campuses. Compared fees. Every evening she asked her husband, "Which one do you prefer?" His answer stayed the same. "We'll see." Eventually, the application deadline arrived. She submitted the forms herself.Months later, when their daughter started school, he casually said, "Maybe the other school would've been better." Neha finally replied, "You don't get to review a decision you never helped make."He went quiet. Since then, they've introduced a simple family rule. "No opinions after the deadline if you stayed silent before it." "It has made both of us much more involved.""The plumber was the final straw" (Smriti, 34) For Smriti, it wasn't one big decision. It was fifty tiny ones. Should they fix the leaking tap? "We'll see." Buy a new washing machine? "We'll see." Book the electrician? "We'll see." After months of hearing the same reply, she realized something. "I wasn't just making decisions." "I was remembering them, following up on them and making sure they happened."One Sunday morning, she handed her husband a notebook. Inside was a list titled: Things We've Been 'Seeing' For Three Months. The first item? Fix bathroom tap. The last? Plan our anniversary. They laughed. Then spent the afternoon crossing things off. "It was the first time he saw how exhausting endless postponement could be," says Smriti."He thought he was being easy-going" (Kavya, 35) Kavya spent years believing her husband simply didn't care about making plans. Then one evening she asked him directly, "Why do you always say, 'We'll see'?" His answer surprised her. "Because I thought saying yes or no would pressure you." He genuinely believed he was giving her freedom. She smiled. "Actually, you're giving me uncertainty."They talked for hours. Now, instead of saying "We'll see," they use three responses: Yes. No. Or, "I need until Friday to decide."So, what would you do?Would you keep waiting? Would you start making the decisions yourself? Or would you ask why your partner finds it so hard to choose? Sometimes, "We'll see" isn't laziness. Sometimes it's fear. Fear of making the wrong decision. Fear of disappointing someone. Fear of commitment.But when one person keeps postponing every choice, the other often ends up carrying all the planning, remembering and worrying. That's not just indecision. It's emotional labour.Sometimes the most loving thing a partner can say isn't always, “Whatever you want.” It’s simply, "Let's decide this together."So if you are in a similar situation, what would YOU do? Write your answers in the comment section below.