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Back to ballet

I was out for nearly two weeks, between being sick and dealing with last week’s midterm grading and program chaos.

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Dancing and self-improvement and all that aside, I really love this particular group: the teacher makes a lovely supportive atmosphere (while having no qualms about telling us when we are fucking everything up – a teaching skill I’m still struggling to master), so we’re kind to each other, and that makes us want to socialize, so there are occasional events, and they’re really nice.

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are you seeing the theme here?

I also noticed again that the Venn diagram of adult ballerinas and people who work in education is pretty remarkable: there’s me, and J. is a grad student, and K. is a public school teacher, and Mj. is astronomy and physics faculty at my school (!!), and S. is a grad student at a vet school, and E. is a post-doc in Econ…

And M. is some kind of admin type person in the same physics and astronomy department where Mj. works, and this is actually at my school (as are E. and S.).

M. is a heavy woman, and – like me – started ballet as an adult, and has no childhood foundation of muscle memory to fall back on. She’s got a great sense of humor about it all, and is hellbent on it, and I love her for that.

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She posted on facebook after Thursday’s class about how she had cried after class, because she was so frustrated with herself, and how she knew it was a chance to practice self-forgiveness, but sometimes it’s hard to suck at things all the time.

I so sympathize with that. So hard. And I commented to that effect – that ballet is nothing if not a constant opportunity to practice self-forgiveness and compassion – and since then we’ve had a few other facebook exchanges.

(I’ve only recently started facebook friending my ballet people – I’m a reluctant facebook friender, but a few of them friended me, so now I’m reciprocating, and I’m enjoying our online interactions.)

Including the discovery that we’re both murderinos! Which is the secret group of people who are into the My Favorite Murder podcast, and who are part of the closed facebook group.

(Only ‘closed’ as a formality, really: you’ll be approved if you ask to join, they just wanted it to be not totally wide open so people’s interest in murder and what-all wasn’t showing up on their friends’ and coworkers’ pages.)

So now we end our exchanges with ‘stay sexy!’ and then: ‘and don’t get murdered!’ Because that’s how every podcast episode ends.

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philly skyline from sou’ filly

So in a pretty major way, ballet is my major social activity: I like most of my colleagues fine, but work interactions are always stressful, and I’m not always great at those conversations, but with ballet people, if the conversation starts to lag, we can always start talking about the pros and cons of various shoemakers and so on. And commiserating about not remembering the combo when you’re leading the barre.

So it was great to be back tonight, and I was all in for it: I did the basic beginner class at 6, which I love because it is pretty simple, and I can focus on posture and placement while doing exercises that don’t require much attention in themselves. Then advanced beginner class at 7, which… went okay. Especially considering my accidental vacation. I still can’t get my head around the lame duck, but I actually almost spotted and hit a foute at the barre, and my tour jetes weren’t bad, and part of the allegro was my favorite combo: tombe pas-de-bourree glissade pas-de-chat!

And these are… what do you call non-academic tombes? these are those – which means you start with a pas de cheval, which is a little jump, and I can’t get enough of watching K.’s: she springs into the air, and lingers there, perfectly still, before exploding into motion with the tombe.

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We also did a lot of balancing at the barre – like, the port des bras in the plies were done in releve, with no barre – and I remembered that you can pull yourself back into balance by gripping your core. Right. That’s a whole thing, but I forget, because I get fixated on how I’m just bad at balancing. Actually, I’m just bad at remembering to do all the work required to balance. Right. Turns out ballet is hard work.

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Then pointe. There were only three of us, and one had new shoes, and the other one and I have been off our shoes for a while, so we took it easy.

My shoes are about dead – the soft shank was excellent at getting me to figure out how to use my actual muscles to keep myself up, as opposed to relying on the stiffness of the shank – and I’ve got a new pair waiting to be sewn. And I am curious to see how I’ll feel about going back to a medium shank now. I’m going to try to get them sewn this week, in time for Friday’s class. Or anyway for Monday’s.

It feels good to be back, and to be making friends, and to share life with other interesting, driven people.

And I am definitely due a long hot bath, if I have any intention of getting up and down stairs tomorrow or Wednesday. There are a few stories left in my Neil Gaiman collection, and I’ll just pour out a little wine…

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Of cabbages and kings

Well, not really of cabbages and kings, but yesterday was of other things, so it made sense.

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I took a day to think very little about work, to act like my life is wholly about my happiness and I have nothing to worry about.

I walked to the grocery store.

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Picked up some wine.

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Georgian wine, from the Kakheti region in the east. Too sweet for the husband’s tastes, but I liked it, and at least he liked the other bottle I’d bought – a bourbon-cask-aged red of some sort. Which I liked okay, but didn’t love, so it worked out perfectly.

I tried some new podcasts, and found that I really like my podcasts to be funny these days. I mean, I still love Backstory, and To the Best of Our Knowledge, and Radiolab, and This American Life, and all the old favorites… but I mostly listen to the ones that are mostly about making me laugh. Usually also about learning, more or less directly – thus Dollop, and My Favorite Murder, and Smartest Man in the World… but mostly I want to be laughing.

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City Hall reflected

A chill was in the air today, finally: winter is finally shading the horizon just a bit, after this unseasonably hot summer, and unseasonably hot fall. So I started making my new coat. I picked out the pattern in March or so, and bought the fabric in early summer, I think, but I’m only just now getting around to cutting it out.

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(The bit of red plaid is because I ran out of cotton flannel for the interlining – a feature of the last coat I made that I adored, and that will be especially key for this coat, since the wool tweed is actually relatively thin – but I had this old cotton flannel sheet that had been taken out of bed-rotation because of having some big holes, but had been saved for future sewing projects… and I was only one measly interlining piece short… so now one of the side-backs will be interlined with red plaid cotton flannel former-bed-sheet rather than the normal neutral cotton flannel by-the-yard. I think the outer wool and inner lining are both solid enough to conceal my audacity, so only you and I need ever know.)

I think it’s going to be very pretty, all in all.

I do want to add a detail to the back. A little mock-belt is easiest, and looks nice without requiring much work… but wouldn’t it also be pretty to have a little lace-up section, just at the waist, at the back? Probably it’s too much. The husband would almost certainly reject it as unadult. But I’m going to think about it… And I’m definitely going to add a roomy inside breast pocket, because it’s stupid that women’s coats never have those, and this time – my third winter coat – I’m not going to forget a roomy inner breast pocket.

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And I think I’m going to spend the rest of my evening starting to put it together and listening to podcasts, and laughing, and not taking the world seriously at all, because who has the heart for that —

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Of podcasts and baby shoes

No post last night because I didn’t feel like it, mostly, but also because I found out in ballet on Friday that L. was hosting a baby shower for W., who hasn’t been in class since July since she’s pregnant – due on Christmas Day! – but who remains a great favorite of everyone’s.

So last night, I sat down to figure out what I could make that would be (1) easy enough to do in one night / one night plus one afternoon, (b) completable with the current fabric and supply stash, and (iii) of appropriate scale (e.g., a quilt might be overkill for our level of friendship, my inability to do a quilt in one night plus afternoon aside).

One quick google search brought us to this page:

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which, um, YES.

So I started that last night: picked out the fabric, cut out the pieces (so gloriously few pieces!!), and got everything set up so I could get to making them today.

Today I changed my mind about the lining fabric (I had been using a plain light pink polyester; I changed to a floral calico cotton), but other than that picked up where I left off, and ended up here:

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So… not as cute as the original, but I can’t tell you what a nightmare it was to sew those tiny seams with the slippery pink lining I had – that’s why the toes ended up so short. It took about two hours (I’m slow at everything, not just reading and writing), and they’re reversible, and they’re pretty cute.

And they’re not as asymmetrical as they look in that picture. They’re actually pretty well matched.

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cuter when GRAMMED

They were a hit at the shower. As were all the gifts, which were so ridiculously cute and thoughtful.

Other ballet themed gifts included a onesie with an attached tutu and matching hat (with built-in bun!!), a full-on black tulle tutu (from our teacher), a simple and lovely lap quilt (from L., who is a fundamentally kind person), crocheted dolls that were partly homemade, a ridiculous unicorn doll wearing an apron made by the gifter…

We’re a good bunch.

(The new line-cutting lady was there too. She didn’t bring a gift, because she doesn’t even know W.!! Because she started taking classes after W. had phased them out!! So I continue to not entirely feel her, although I learned today that she just finished her PhD (econ) last year, and has a post-doc position at my school this year, so we ought to have enough points of contact to be at least casual friends.)

(But we don’t: for instance, she didn’t ask me what my PhD was in, and had no follow-up questions on learning that I am faculty in the writing program.)

(Also she’s Russian, which makes no sense. Her accent isn’t quite Russian, she’s outgoing and almost aggressively friendly, she smiles a lot, and she wears almost no makeup. None of these things read as Russian to me, but she is from a small town, so maybe that’s the disconnect.)

Oh, also I didn’t post last night because I was distracted by this masterpiece:

To be fair, that’s exactly how I feel when I’m listening to news reports about Trump.

Anyway.

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I’m super into Instagram now. I linked it to my facebook page, and picked up some friends as followers, but also have been slowly collecting random people followers, and I’m trying not to be That Person who just constantly posts random pictures. I think you have to be either famous or a great photographer to get away with that, and I am neither.

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The husband met me in the city (he had come up to do some winter clothes shopping, as he never has the right clothes for anything, and always hates his clothes) (although his rare purchases never seem to help the matter, which is puzzling, but a matter for another night.) and we went home together, after a bizarre conversation with a man who was clearly not altogether well, but also not altogether dangerous, and was really weirdly mesmerized by that weird suspicious intense look I apparently regularly get on my face (the husband assures me that it is regular) whenever someone is saying something I can’t contextualize. That conversation ended with him (‘him’ the guy, not ‘him’ the husband) assuring us both, for some time, that I was the superhero, and men only imagined they had any power in the world, and he really hoped I knew it.

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He was missing several teeth, was bleeding slightly from his ear, had just finished a bottle of something that was probably not water with some friends a few feet away, and volunteered that he had spent a month in Boulder jail.

So that was weird, but whatever, Phila, I’ve seen worse.

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I’ve been really getting into the Dollop podcast that I’ve mentioned a couple of times – that’s two LA comedians, and one of them researches an American history story and explains it to the other, and they both react and respond as they go. Today I listened to the one on cereal, which has to do with Mr. Post and Mr. Kellogg and their weird ideas about diet and masturbation and purity, and started the one on former Phila mayor Frank Rizzo, who is just… a fucking asshole. There’s no other way to put it.

In many ways, as they observe at several points, he’s a lot like some other politicians currently in our purview: arrogant, a bully, racist, sexist, fascistic… the parallels are definitely there.

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The husband is into them too – he actually recommended the Rizzo episode to me, after listening to the Philly sports fans episode on my recommendation. You listen, you learn, and you laugh: what else could you want?!

And so we’re up against another week. A short one, granted, but one which includes reading the reviews on the dream paper (Wednesday) (please say you’ll do it with me, because I don’t think I can do it alone) and also a weekend trip to DC with mom and the husband, to check out the apparently amazing Greek exhibit at the NatGeo museum – on which more another day, obviously.

For now, I’m remembering how much I enjoy sewing, and thinking about that coat I cut out ages ago and then never followed up on, and all those Dollop episodes I’ve got queued up…

See y’all tomorrow —

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Maybe the ordinariness is what’s beautiful

Bit of a melodramatic title, I know, but I was playing with various titles, and decided that it was a supremely ordinary day, but also thought about how fortunate I am to have such ordinary days, and how lovely they are in their simplicity.

tiny snails were all over the walls on the patio outside the building where my morning and midday classes are - this guy was about a quarter inch long

tiny snails were all over the walls on the patio outside the building where my morning and midday classes are – this guy was about a quarter inch long

I am enjoying a new podcast, The Dollop. It’s another LA comedian podcast – naturally so, because I heard about it on my new murder podcast, and those ladies are LA comedians, and they’re friends with the Dollop guys – but it’s also a history podcast: Dave does some research on some aspect of American history, broadly interpreted, and then he tells Gareth all about it, and hijinks ensue.

It doesn’t sound like all that promising of a premise, maybe, but I’ve been thoroughly entertained and educated by the episodes I’ve listened to so far, which include a justifiably grossed out discussion on Purity Balls, a fantastic overview of how we got to Ferguson (from back when Ferguson was first in flames), and a painfully honest account of stories of Philadelphia sports fans acting up and acting out.

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My only slight reservation is that their jokes about ladies fall flat for me sometimes, as they get a bit too far into the objectification territory, and I can’t totally tell if we’re still joking… but that’s me being super sensitive, and the guys obviously buy into the radical idea that women are people and ought to be engaged accordingly.

not for the composition, just to point out that my school is kind of keeping up with the times - although these are single-stall bathrooms, so it's not such a revolutionary step as all that to call them 'gender neutral'

not for the composition, just to point out that my school is kind of keeping up with the times – although these are single-stall bathrooms, so it’s not such a revolutionary step as all that to call them ‘gender neutral’

(I recently started listening to a different podcast also hosted by two LA guy comedians, and they’re very funny… but… just too many jokes about tits and trickin’ ladies into fucking you or whatever, I had to put that one on hiatus. I compare it to the Hooters ball girls at Phillies’ spring training games: they don’t ruin the game for me, and they’re not that big a deal, but they make it very clear to me that I’m not imagined as the audience, and nobody in charge has really given any thought to what would make my experience better, which is all just a little off-putting.)

I know, I know: I’m super PC, and I’m totes what’s wrong with America. I am what stands between America and Greatness.

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Sorry, guys.

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We have a work meeting tomorrow. This should be entertaining. I wonder if the associate director will answer the question I asked him over email about what’s going on with this review that I’m suddenly being told is going to happen – he’s clearly not going to respond to my email, so cool cool cool. We’ll talk tomorrow, bro, and thanks for being so responsive and human with me.

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Class was good. I thought the kids would be really bored by me reporting back to them on the trends and suggestions from the survey I had them do last week, but they were actually kind of riveted, I think because I actually put the survey results up onscreen, and they got to see what anonymous other students had said, and maybe got to feel a little thrill when they saw their own comments up there among the others.

They haven’t turned on me yet. I believe I was hypothesizing next Tuesday as being the tipping point.

We shall see.

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There was a new lady in ballet. Beautiful dancer. Clearly major background. I am fascinated by how long trained dancers can make their bodies appear, how they can stretch to the furthest point and freeze for a second before falling into the next step. I definitely look like I am just going through the motions next to them while they fucking dance.

It’s good to have models to look up to and aspirations to strive for.

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And it was morning, and it was night; another day.

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Unmotivated

Side note: I am so relieved to see that this is the first post I’ve titled ‘Unmotivated’ in four years. That’s got to be a good sign, right?

But I’m totally unmotivated right now. Like, for my job-job, I mean. Y’know, the one that actually matters as far as keeping me in wine and cheese and Netflix and fabric.

So for instance I had a good time putting together this week’s Monday post with links to various popular and generalist content for my feminist classics group. It was a particularly rich and interesting week, and I thought I opened strong with the story of the new head of Russian Children’s Rights Commissioner who apparently once believed – she claims not to remember any such thing, but there is, like videotape of an interview or something – once believed in telegony.

Let’s talk telegony for a second.

This is an Aristotelian theory —

— right there alarm bells should be going off. It’s by Aristotle, and about women? Shit is about to get real, y’all.

This is an Aristotelian theory that basically says the womb remembers every partner, and thus that children by one partner might show characteristics of whomever the woman has fucked before.

I went with the crude term there, because this has – obviously – been used to lobby for ‘protecting’ women’s virginity and ‘virtue’ and all that bullshit, when it’s obviously more about men’s anxieties about their inabilities to fully control women’s bodies.

Obviously this is not a thing in real life. Science says that women’s wombs do not, in fact, ‘remember’ anything about whomever said womb’s owner has had sex with, and certainly don’t hoard DNA from all partners to be parceled out at a later date when conception is happening or whatever.

(It does seem to be true that women’s bodies preserve DNA echoes of their children, which is fucking cool, but a whole different thing.)

But for real: Aristotle + theories about women = prepare to see a lot of made-up, untrue, ridiculous ‘facts’.

(Not that I’m dissing on Aristotle, y’all: I fucking love Aristotle, and he was a brilliant thinker, and his scientific and classificatory logic is often a thing of beauty… but no, he’s not great on women.)

(Also dwarfism. He’s bad on dwarves.)

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The rest of the weekly post is here, incidentally, but really that first link was the most showy.

I did settle down and prepare my classes, of course, but mostly by ensuring that the files I wanted were already up on our class site (they were not) and revisiting, with a cursory glance, the ideas I want to have class discussions about tomorrow.

And flipping through my Klinkenborg again. I’ve got to add that to the Edifying Reads page.

(I’ve got to update the Edifying Reads page.)

(I just got Todoist on my phone: I’ll make a note of that there now!)

But for real the Klinkenborg is great.

“Natural”, like flow, is also an effect in the reader’s mind.
It doesn’t describe the act of writing.
It describes the effect of reading. (72)

I thought briefly about emailing the Grammarian from Friday about it, and asking if he’d seen it and what he thought – after all, he said he’d love to continue our chat over email! – but I feel silly about it. What, like I’m just supposed to say Hey, I think this book is cool and speaks to a lot of what you’re up to, which is a totally open-ended non-question that doesn’t really guide or advance our ‘conversation’ in any obvious way, so now you go, your turn!

Because we’re not friends. I think he’s totally fascinating and smart and charismatic and has ideas about grammar that I am interested in, but we’re not friends, and it’s weird to just email random people open-ended shit.

(I wish we were friends, though!)

Other than that, ballet was a punch in the gut (fucking Monday ballet! Now we’re doing saute de Basques like that’s a thing we’ve learned, I guess??!) and my calves literally gave out in one exercise – like, I intended to go up on releve and my muscles were all, nope, thanks but no thanks, we’re staying flat for this one, we’ve done enough, you do you with the develope or whatever though.

And I listened to some more murder podcasts, and did a little cooking, and… now I guess I’ve got an hour or so to myself, and maybe I’ll get back to the blue quilt top, which is coming along in its slow hiccups —

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More on morbid fascinations, mostly

But first!

Two weeks in and things are going reasonably well (the noon class was a disaster with today’s group exercise, but the other two classes did good work and played along, so that’s not entirely on me) but I am exhausted: four and a half hours of active and energetic teaching, interrupted only by two hours of one-on-one student meetings… That’s more, and more intense, human contact than I can easily handle. It should all settle down soon, as most of my students have come in for the required first meeting by now: usually the next month or so of office hours is pretty chill, and mostly involves some combination of the most interesting, most obsessive, most A-hungry, and most committed students. So that’s mostly fun.

Also my feet are torn up by being back in work shoes while it’s too hot to wear stockings. Sigh. We’ve fully recovered from last week’s painfully sore arches after getting back in heels, but I have three abrasions from today’s shoes, along with three blisters — two of which happen to be in spots that pointe class is really going to aggravate. So, yay.

On the plus side, I seem to have gotten over this aversion to teaching bare-legged, mainly because it’s simply been too fucking hot to consider wearing stockings – thanks, global warming! – and fortunately the classrooms are cold enough that I can still cling to my refusal to teach bare-armed, and can wear cardigans during class.

The husband was interested in that little tick: I think it’s about vulnerability. Something about having arms and legs covered in fabric makes me feel more at ease.

(Also I sweat so fucking much that I couldn’t possibly teach without a sweater – at least until I make my peace with teaching with wet-darkened armpits, and we are not there yet.)

Anyway.

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I got turned on to a new-to-me podcast recently, My Favorite Murder. The premise is that these two ladies became friends after learning that they were both obsessed with true crime stories, and so they started a podcast together where they talk about true crime, with a particular interest in murders.

Mostly I’m really enjoying it: they’ve obviously got a high tolerance and appreciation for black humor, which is perhaps my favorite color of humor, and they come across as interesting, reasonably thoughtful, empathetic human beings. Their word choice and turns of phrase are not always ideal, but whose are.

This, in turn, alerted me to a podcast called Last Podcast on the Left. I can’t say much about this one yet, as I’ve only listened to part of one episode, but it seems to take a much broader scope than MFM, and address itself to all incarnations of horror, real and fictional. I will confess that my jury is just a little bit out on these guys based on a few jokes they make in episode one, mostly about women, but I’m reserving judgement for now on that front, and giving them the benefit of the doubt.

Which, incidentally, is not a terrible segue to what makes me uncomfortable about our fascination with murder: a lot of it is about ‘beautiful dead girls’. Like, that’s actually a trope.

also that google search is a lot darker than you expect

also that google search is a lot darker than you expect

(Just to be clear, I don’t think this trope is as recent as Twin Peaks, by any stretch: I suspect it goes way back. Psycho comes to mind, just as an obvious for-instance. As does the very sad ‘most beautiful suicide’ photograph. And tvtropes agrees with me.)

The husband and I watched the first episode of The Night Of  last night.

I’m torn.

On the one hand, the actors – especially the main guy, who is [Something] Ahmed, I think – are really engaging.

On the other hand, it’s definitely a ‘beautiful dead girl’ set up. Which is kind of a cheap trick, and does a lot of the heavy lifting that really ought to be done by good writing and story construction.

I had this same problem with True Detective, and I was not alone in that:

I was reminded of the dead prostitutes in True Detective’s first season; certainly The Night Of finds more for its female characters to do than did that series, but the show tries its utmost, in those opening minutes of knife games and eagerly proffered drugs, to convince you that Andrea is dooming herself. So much else on The Night Of feels new that one eventually forgets we’re seeing this whole tapestry because of a girl portrayed as essentially complicit in her own death; the ends do eventually justify the mean-spirited beginning. But if, like True Detective, The Night Of becomes an anthology franchise for HBO, perhaps #TheNightOfSeason2 could feature a wrong-place-wrong-time story that’s wrong for reasons other than a profligate woman endangering an innocent.

Um, yes.

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All that said, it is a true and horrifying and undeniable fact that women and girls are the victims of violent and sexual crimes, um, a lot. That’s a real thing that our culture is really into. While coincidentally being really into not taking violence against women very seriously.

(cough cough Brock Turner)

So we do need to be talking about this.

I’m just not sure when that conversation stops being useful and instead becomes creepy and exploitative and gross. Which is, to be fair, something the MFM ladies are also really interested in, and conscious of, and explicitly discuss in most episodes. Which is part of what I like about the show.

But I can’t help feeling like it’s one of those dangerous lines where we really need to pay attention, and not just allow ourselves to fall into the ghoulish pleasures of the familiar tropes.

And all that said, pardon me while I get back to my current audiobook, which happens to be a newish Sherlock Holmes novel about the Ripper killings, so… yeah… pot and kettle and all that…

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Penultimate

Today is the penultimate day of this poorly planned week! Tomorrow is the ultimate, and then we’re in the weekend and done with all the social obligations of the semester!

Still grades to figure and submit, yes, but that isn’t hard, just a little tedious and time-consuming. Grades aren’t due until next Friday, though, and I typically sit on them until the last minute, even if I’ve done all the calculations: the students get an email as soon as you submit grades, and if you submit early, when they’re still around campus, you can expect a flurry of variously disappointed or panicked or outraged or discouraged emails, and then you have to deal with that shit. Once they’ve left campus, they forget to be engaged with what goes on here.

Berlin, for instance, is going to have an A-, and he is not going to be happy with that: he expected an A. He did not do A-level work, but there you are. I’m frankly not sure he did A–level work, all told, but it was close enough, and it’s fine. And anyway he’ll be graduating (yes!!) so grades will become increasingly meaningless, so I don’t expect any response there, however annoyed he is.

seen at the local PO

seen at the local PO

I had a follow-up meeting about the advising gig I’m picking up next year (i.e., next month, when I find out who my advisees are) which was fine, but somewhat inconveniently scheduled: it was 3-4, on campus, and ballet is at 7… so there wasn’t really time to go home, but I didn’t really have anything to do on campus (or any inclination to do any work), so I basically sat in my secret chilling spot [NB it’s not at all secret, it’s just not a part of campus that is frequented by My People, so I almost never see anyone I know over there, so I relax and chill the fuck out there] and listened to podcasts.

I was going to go into Dr. Gertrude E. Curtis, my alleged militant woman suffragist I’m supposed to write a bio of, but I changed my mind. Tomorrow, or this weekend. I want to do justice to the Schomburg Center and to what I learned, and I need to do real prep work for Tuesday’s meeting with the research librarian. So we’ll put a pin in that.

But not tonight.

Incidentally, I picked up the phrase ‘put a pin in that’ from Harmontown, and Norman Lear was on Harmontown this week, and he’s a titan, and an interesting and thoughtful man. I mean, I know Harmontown is a hard sell: it is literally an hour or two of listening to a rich middle-aged white guy get increasingly drunk with his mostly rich, mostly middle-aged, mostly white, mostly guy friends…

But anyway, just a head’s up. Because Norman Lear.

(For those of you who, like me, can’t place the name: he created All in the Family, The Jeffersons, Maude, Sanford and Son, Good Times, and also fucking People for the American Way. So a tip of the hat is not out of order, is all I’m saying.)

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There’s been a minor shake-up around Casa TDP: Our Oscar has been becoming increasingly rotund, and Clio has been losing weight nicely on her fat-cat diet food, and it was discovered that The Thing that Mr Stanley Bull Squinkles, III, wants more than anything is literally just canned cat food. That’s all it takes. We learned this because our last batch of cat litter included a free sample, and we gave it to him (as the only appropriately-weighted cat in the household) and a golden light from heaven shone down, and he was Completely Content for maybe the first time during his sojourn with us.

For, like, three minutes, but it was enough.

So now the new regime is: everybody eats fat-cat diet food cereal, and Stanley – for now! as long as he keeps his youthful figure! – gets a little supplement of canned food.

This means no change for Clio, so she’s unmoved, but the canned food hasn’t arrived yet, and we’ve just run out of the old food the boys ate, so they just started on the diet cereal this morning, and Stanley is antsy and uncertain about the whole prospect, as he suspects that his future might consist only of fat-cat diet cereal, which leaves him deeply anxious, while Our Oscar is Shocked and Appalled, and would be penning endless editorials if he knew how to pen things. Instead he’s just rampaging around adorably, which only encourages us to stick to this new torture regime, because he’s so fucking adorable.

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this is Stanley’s version of ‘adorable’. He’s not good at things, but he means well.

Also I got back to ballet tonight, which was scary before-the-fact, but then brilliant and rewarding and fun during: it’s nice to show up to a place and have people be excited to see you, and to check in and exchange news with people whose lives you dip into casually and find so foreign and interesting, and – given that it’s Thursday – to then get to feel like one of the Best Girls, and be one of the ones that newbies ask questions of and actively follow during combos.

It makes you want to do really well so you can help them learn, but also it makes you remember how hard this all is for us adult beginners, who don’t have the luxury of muscle memory from way-back-when, and I stand by the idea that nothing is more important for a teacher than remembering what it feels like to be a struggling student.

Of course, then there’s Monday ballet, in which I am the struggling student, so then I get to learn that lesson from the other side…

But tonight, after a week and a half or so out – I only missed three classes, but timing meant that it’s ten days of classlessness – and… Wow. It really makes a difference, and I have scheduled a hot bath soak for tonight.

Which we’re almost due for: we’re coming up against the half hour.

So tomorrow the last of this week’s obligations, and then ballet again – and back on pointe! – and then we’ll have to start shifting focus.

No home decorating this summer, apart from the stoop (we went with waiting the month for the concrete to cure, and will be putting in the mosaic in a couple of weeks).

This summer we’re going to try to channel our grad-student-self and fucking work.

We’ll see how it goes.

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In pictures, mostly

I woke up too early this morning, and then eventually fell back into a troubled doze in which I dreamt an earthquake was hitting, and it was happening with such agonizing slowness and in such terrifying detail.

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And then I felt kind of distant and quiet all day.

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Some errands. Pleasant enough. Surprised when a day that was expected to be dreary and rainy turned out quite nice after all.

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(I don’t remember exactly what caught my eye and inspired me to take that picture. The different architectural styles, maybe? Although they don’t really come through here unless you click through, alas.)

I’ve been enjoying some new-to-me podcasts: the silly Hello from the Magic Tavern, which is some Chicago comedians doing an extended improv bit with the premise that one guy fell through a portal into a magical kingdom and is podcasting his experiences back to us; the chaotic but interesting You Made it Weird, which is Pete Holmes chatting – extensively! most episodes are 2+ hours long! – with other [mostly LA] comedians and performers; and Sleep with Me, which I haven’t listened to yet, but is a podcast explicitly designed to be so boring that it helps you fall asleep, which is a concept I find at once bizarre and fascinating, because even though I am mostly a champion sleeper, I sometimes really struggle to fall asleep.

I’ll report back on that.

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Are the boys slowly moving closer together for their naps, or is it my imagination?

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Though Mr Stanley Bull Squinkles, III, also naps with objects.

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Caught on the phone with his alien overlords?

Occam’s razor says that’s the most likely explanation.

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My coat fabric arrived. I am happy with it (shown there with a quarter for scale). If you squint just right, the pattern looks like stylized dancers. It’s fairly lightweight wool, which I expected, so I’ll definitely be doing the flannel interlining again.

I am committing to a 28 day curing period for the cement stoop, so no developments on the tiling front, but here is the State of the Garden:

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Blueberry continues to grow steadily.

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Lavender is keeping up a good front; I admit I need to rearrange things so the bird feeders are not directly above it.

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The monarda is finally showing some life and exhibiting some energy.

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And the astilbe, out front, is really taking off. I’m already worried that I may need to get a bigger pot later this summer, which is somewhat complicated by the fact that the current pot is chained to our basement window with a bike lock for which we do not have the key.

Bridges and timing and all.

For now, everything is fine, and I am due some TV before I test out this brilliantly boring podcast —

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Some nice things in the world

But first!

A terrible but bizarre thing in the world: apparently a history and classics professor up the road at Villanova was recently arrested for child porn?!

[NB I think link opens to video, so adjust your audio accordingly.]

What the fuck is going on, my people?!!

The shock followed immediately by: so is Villanova hiring now or what?!

It’s a mercenary world, my friends.

I had a fine day. I had to get out of the house (haven’t left since Friday due to cold) so went up to Trader Joe’s. I did the feminist classics weekly post, I went over the exercise for tomorrow once more and fine tuned and printed out the handouts. I continued not to comment on the latest draft because jesus christ… I really wish I could do it, but I don’t want to.

(Earlier, out of nowhere?, I was laughing to myself about responding that way to someone inviting you to do something you don’t want to do, and wondering if they would notice, or if – if you got the tone just right – they’d hear the convention rather than your actual words.)

It’s to be cold out again this week, even freezing a few nights, so I fussed over the plants, but I’m leaving them out. Tonight it’s supposed to be right around freezing or just above, and it rained today, and apparently – though it seems counterintuitive to me – wet soil in a freeze protects the plants better than dry, as it insulates or something. And tomorrow it might snow (while being in the 40’s), and that will be additional insulation.

I mean, they’re all hardy to zone 5, and we’re zone 7, but they’re not established yet.

Tell you what, though: their first weeks out are definitely set to make them strong, if they make it through: 60 mile per hour winds this weekend, crazy deluge on Friday, now freezing and snow…

Anyway. Good Things. I’ve come across a number of them today, and, as I haven’t got anything else especially pressing to go on about, this seemed like a good landing point.

Audible is now doing a ‘channels’ thing, where you can access a lot of free [I mean, minus the subscription fee you already pay] content. Like literature, and comedy, and stories, and news, and… it’s like a buffet of podcastland.

I immediately downloaded 15 hours of content, which. Jesus christ. When do I think I’m going to listen to that. It’s not like I’m planning a trip to Doha or anything.

(Once again, due to my particular distaste for Doha, I want to make it clear that Doha is literally the only city I’ve ever been to, in my life, that I never want to visit again. For any reason. The only redeeming quality of Doha is the old souq, and that’s only enjoyable if you can overlook the slave labor keeping it clean and the alarming absence and erasure of women.)

(Seriously, fuck Doha.)

(Too much? Probably too much. But I’m telling you: I harbor a special disdain for that hellhole.)

I guess Audible channels is still in Beta, so maybe you won’t be so lucky as to be able to already be using it, but you should check it out. It’s cool.

Next, I’ll just remind you of the kitten-cam.

There’s a new game based on Greek myth, Apotheon, and the art is deliberately meant to mimic Black and Red Figure painting styles of ancient vase painting, and it is really beautiful:

I mean, way bloodier than any game I would ever play, so not for me, but still I’m 100% on board with the concept.

While investigating that game, I learned about Elegy for a Dead World, which is subtitled ‘a game about writing’:

Three worlds to explore, based on three poets (Keats, Shelley, Byron, I think?), and the game play is basically responding to writing prompts. I actually bought it, and for $15 – which is a lot for me, as I am a dilettante gamer, and quite parsimonious indeed.

I haven’t started playing it yet – I think I’m going to wait til summer – but I really am interested in the idea, however I end up feeling about the game itself.

Today was ‘brown day’ with my imaginary cats, incidentally:

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I’m sure there were other good things that crossed my path today, but those are the ones I remember, and now I’m tired and ready to tune out, so that will have to do.

Anything exciting pleasantly surprise you today?

 

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Some

* Ways we know Mr Stanley Bull Squinkles, III, was not always a stray: (1) Doing that little ‘pat your lap’ thing to encourage a cat to jump up is almost Pavlovian for him; once he hears the pat, he is positively compelled to jump towards it. (2) The speed with which he runs into the kitchen whenever a can is opened, and then the intense expectancy with which he looks up at you.

* Things that went well today: My midday class had a fruitful and interesting discussion about the different ways of conceiving of knowledge. The student who made it explicit is Malaysian, and talked some about how Malaysia (and many other East Asian countries) view knowledge as a communal, public good, and so feels little need to cite; the West, on the other hand (broad strokes, as always), with our obsessions about individuality and worship of genius, becomes congruently obsessed with and worshipful of rigorous citation practices.

At least some of my jokes landed in all of my classes. To be clear, I am not a comedian, and certainly don’t ‘tell jokes’, but I am who I am, and I tend to incorporate into my lectures and discussions little details and tangents that make me laugh on the fly (or seemed especially effective in earlier classes). Given my decidedly arid sense of humor and delivery, my students don’t tend to think I’m nearly as funny as I think I am, but we can’t all et cetera.

I didn’t have many student meetings between classes, so I sat outside in the unseasonably warm sun (with remnants of last week’s blizzard all around) and listened to the most recent Greg Proops, and laughed out loud several times. It stresses me out when he starts to abuse his audiences, sometimes – like, when he does it for real, about people who sit and chit-chat, not when he jokingly berates them – but his memory is prodigious, and his knowledge of baseball and history legitimately remarkable.

* Things I wish I had handled better: Team Seniors in my last class got on my nerves a little. It’s because Berlin and London were sitting next to each other, and they are the least… ‘pliant’ is not the word I want, although there’s a soupçon of that involved… game and willing, I think. Perhaps not convinced there’s anything to be gained from my class, but putting up a good front, and that is all I require from seniors. Especially in spring.

Paris and America, so far, are doing an excellent job. I catch America occasionally exchanging Meaningful Glances with London or Berlin, but that’s fine. I have no problem with that, so long as it doesn’t get out of control. Paris seems legitimately invested, or is doing such a good performance of Legitimately Invested Student that he has achieved Suspension of Disbelief.

But I had to snap-snap Berlin and London twice today, because they were falling into whispers. Partly it makes my autistic features flare up, and I find it almost impossible to keep my concentration in the face of other conversations (this is way less of an issue in casual situations, but actually quite a challenge when I’m teaching). And partly it’s rude, and they’re seniors, and, as I’ve said, it is essential to the health of my class community that they are kept in-line as a model for the freshmen.

I have a Plan on this front, incidentally. Right now we’re at the snap-snap ‘Gentlemen, is everything okay over there?’ and snap-snap ‘Gentlemen, stay with us’ stage. Next is the Light Shaming stage, where I embarrass them just a bit. That will be hard for me, as I am myself so sensitive to embarrassment – mine or others’ – but these are privileged finance majors. I think they can handle it. If all that fails, we come to calling them in to office hours, which will annoy me to no end, so fingers crossed it doesn’t come to that.

Things as yet unclassified as ‘having gone well’ or ‘having gone badly’ because I really can’t decide: Today in my fairy tales class, we had the library presentation. It was on the schedule for Thursday, but the librarian and I worked it out for Tuesday because it was better for her schedule. And I forgot to warn students. So I sent them an email yesterday afternoon explaining the situation, and telling them to look at the readings on the schedule for Thursday, and acknowledging that I was giving them less than 24 hours, and that therefore didn’t assume they would all be able to read them in great detail, but hoped they would at least skim them all.

think that was the right thing to do, in light of my oversight. I think it is the respectful thing to do: it was my mistake, so I adjusted my expectations of them accordingly, and let them know.

But I can’t stop thinking that giving them permission to skim assigned readings is dangerous.

I went with ‘respect’ trumping ‘dangerous’, but time will tell.

In my last class, in our discussion of the ways that home and self are mutually constitutive, Paris was giving a very thoughtful answer about how the physical, concrete space of, and items in, a home were actually a kind of performance of ideal self, and I laughed, and then wanted to explain that I wasn’t laughing at him or his thoughtful answer, but rather at being reminded of the old joke about how you should never sleep with someone who doesn’t have books in their house.

That got a pretty good laugh, although I didn’t look up to see who was laughing. I wanted them to be able to exchange all the looks they wanted for a second without my interference.

Now, this is college, so that kind of joke is fine, and, as I’ve said before, the only ‘policing’ I do in class discussions is to do with respect, I don’t really get worked up with ‘bad words’ (which I never use (believe it or not), and which students rarely use, because they are extremely well socialized to ‘proper culture’) or ‘risqué’ topics. But I tend to avoid risqué topics myself, in the service of maintaining my Objective Leader stance.

Still, that’s really good fucking advice.

And yes, I’m letting both senses of ‘fucking’ – adjective and noun – operate there.

* Moments I enjoyed: sitting in the afternoon sun, as mentioned above.

The evening idly chatting and perusing the day’s media with the husband this evening.

The walk from campus to the bus. It felt warm, although it was actually not much above freezing, and it was a clear calm night, and the lighted buildings – I mean the big buildings that typically have some kind of colored light accents – were all red, for some reason, and I wondered for the first time if there is rhyme or reason to the colors on the buildings in this city. Like how the Empire State Building’s colors change for various events and seasons.

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Speaking of, this bit of graffiti I noticed when I stopped to take this picture:

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I’m not really sure what the image is – a paper with a tack in it, right? Is it a reference to that game that got so much attention last year? But I haven’t played it, so I don’t know, I just recall a bulletin board as part of its central ‘trailer’ iconography.

* Words I think I may have used imprecisely in this post: congruently; mutually constitutive.

There are lots more ‘somes’ to discuss, of course, but we’re a tad over the half hour, and I’m now looking forward to some cheese and some TV before bed.

some goats

some goats

(whence)

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