I was out for nearly two weeks, between being sick and dealing with last week’s midterm grading and program chaos.
Dancing and self-improvement and all that aside, I really love this particular group: the teacher makes a lovely supportive atmosphere (while having no qualms about telling us when we are fucking everything up – a teaching skill I’m still struggling to master), so we’re kind to each other, and that makes us want to socialize, so there are occasional events, and they’re really nice.
I also noticed again that the Venn diagram of adult ballerinas and people who work in education is pretty remarkable: there’s me, and J. is a grad student, and K. is a public school teacher, and Mj. is astronomy and physics faculty at my school (!!), and S. is a grad student at a vet school, and E. is a post-doc in Econ…
And M. is some kind of admin type person in the same physics and astronomy department where Mj. works, and this is actually at my school (as are E. and S.).
M. is a heavy woman, and – like me – started ballet as an adult, and has no childhood foundation of muscle memory to fall back on. She’s got a great sense of humor about it all, and is hellbent on it, and I love her for that.
She posted on facebook after Thursday’s class about how she had cried after class, because she was so frustrated with herself, and how she knew it was a chance to practice self-forgiveness, but sometimes it’s hard to suck at things all the time.
I so sympathize with that. So hard. And I commented to that effect – that ballet is nothing if not a constant opportunity to practice self-forgiveness and compassion – and since then we’ve had a few other facebook exchanges.
(I’ve only recently started facebook friending my ballet people – I’m a reluctant facebook friender, but a few of them friended me, so now I’m reciprocating, and I’m enjoying our online interactions.)
Including the discovery that we’re both murderinos! Which is the secret group of people who are into the My Favorite Murder podcast, and who are part of the closed facebook group.
(Only ‘closed’ as a formality, really: you’ll be approved if you ask to join, they just wanted it to be not totally wide open so people’s interest in murder and what-all wasn’t showing up on their friends’ and coworkers’ pages.)
So now we end our exchanges with ‘stay sexy!’ and then: ‘and don’t get murdered!’ Because that’s how every podcast episode ends.
So in a pretty major way, ballet is my major social activity: I like most of my colleagues fine, but work interactions are always stressful, and I’m not always great at those conversations, but with ballet people, if the conversation starts to lag, we can always start talking about the pros and cons of various shoemakers and so on. And commiserating about not remembering the combo when you’re leading the barre.
So it was great to be back tonight, and I was all in for it: I did the basic beginner class at 6, which I love because it is pretty simple, and I can focus on posture and placement while doing exercises that don’t require much attention in themselves. Then advanced beginner class at 7, which… went okay. Especially considering my accidental vacation. I still can’t get my head around the lame duck, but I actually almost spotted and hit a foute at the barre, and my tour jetes weren’t bad, and part of the allegro was my favorite combo: tombe pas-de-bourree glissade pas-de-chat!
And these are… what do you call non-academic tombes? these are those – which means you start with a pas de cheval, which is a little jump, and I can’t get enough of watching K.’s: she springs into the air, and lingers there, perfectly still, before exploding into motion with the tombe.
We also did a lot of balancing at the barre – like, the port des bras in the plies were done in releve, with no barre – and I remembered that you can pull yourself back into balance by gripping your core. Right. That’s a whole thing, but I forget, because I get fixated on how I’m just bad at balancing. Actually, I’m just bad at remembering to do all the work required to balance. Right. Turns out ballet is hard work.
Then pointe. There were only three of us, and one had new shoes, and the other one and I have been off our shoes for a while, so we took it easy.
My shoes are about dead – the soft shank was excellent at getting me to figure out how to use my actual muscles to keep myself up, as opposed to relying on the stiffness of the shank – and I’ve got a new pair waiting to be sewn. And I am curious to see how I’ll feel about going back to a medium shank now. I’m going to try to get them sewn this week, in time for Friday’s class. Or anyway for Monday’s.
It feels good to be back, and to be making friends, and to share life with other interesting, driven people.
And I am definitely due a long hot bath, if I have any intention of getting up and down stairs tomorrow or Wednesday. There are a few stories left in my Neil Gaiman collection, and I’ll just pour out a little wine…
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