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 Hello, Dreamwidth!
I had taken a very long break from this site for no particular reason... I just kinda stopped visiting one day. And just a little while ago I had remembered I once wrote a handy post for how to remove hair color from your hair if you've dyed it a color you don't like. (I died my hair last night and it looks dumb. Moving on...)

So then I thought, "Dreamwidth! What can I use it for? Anything?"  I moved over to OnePostWonder after the demise of LJ, and I settled in there. It's a muuuuuuuch smaller audience/user base, but the quality is excellent... plus I know the site creators well and they are top-notch humans. But the trick with OnePostWonder is that you can only post once per day (you can edit/append the post, though) and sometimes I like posting more than once per day if I want to keep things separated by topic or filter. 

ANYWAY, all of that is to say: I turn 50 in a few weeks. My dad said to me about 6 weeks ago that this pandemic has aged a lot of people, and me included. He said he thought my years are showing more on my face since lockdown began, and I tend to agree.  I was taking skincare pretty seriously at the start of 2020, but when the pandemic hit, it all went to shit. 

But, when your own dad tells you your skin looks crappy (he was very kind and lovely about it, truthfully), you might decide it's time to get back on the skincare ship.

In choosing a skincare routine, I wanted to apply as much science as I could, while also enjoying the ritual of caring for my skin and acknowledging that it feels good. I started reading blogs, skincare science journals, whitepapers, and following a dermatologist on YouTube who isn't trying to sell fillers/botox. I thought documenting my skincare routine here could be cool. I have to figure out how image hosting works (or if it works at all) so I can include progress photos.

So, until then, here's my regimen.

1) Double-wash my face. I'm not all that picky about cleansers. In a moment of weakness and pandemic depression, I purchased some foo-foo cleansers from HoliFrog. They are lovely, but ridiculously expensive (though they last forever, which is nice), so I'm still using them now. So, I'm using the HoliFrog "Kissimmee Vitamin F
Therapy Balmy Wash" which is almost like an ointment. It dissolves waterproof mascara and long-wear lipstick, which is nice. And then I do a 2nd wash with a glycolic/lactic/salicylic acid AHA/BHA wash I bought on Amazon which is lovely and leaves my skin feeling clean, not over-dry, exfoliated but not raw, and just ready for whatever I'm gonna do next. 

2) I will apply a leave-on 2% salicylic acid treatment. These are often expensive fancy products, but I also remembered that old-skool Stri-Dex acne pads from 30 years ago contain 2% salicylic acid, so, boom! $5.29 instead of some $40 thing.  I'm debating making this step only something I do in the evenings, but so far, my skin has no problem with this 2x/day.  I do not rinse this off, but it dries/sinks in quickly. 

3) Once it's dry, I spray my face with water. Sometimes I'll spritz it with tap water, or sometimes I'll use some fancy hibiscus rosewater I got as a gift. Either way, I dampen my face and then apply Hyaluronic Acid; any brand is fine, really. I was using the HA from The Ordinary because it was like $5.60 for a bottle. I recently switched to NXN brand because Sephora was out of The Ordinary and the NXN brand looked good.  Hyaluronic Acid occurs naturally in your body; it's basically the cushiony liquid that keeps your skin plump when you're young; it's also what is inside the discs between your vertabrae. Hyaluronic acid molecules, if formulated small enough, can penetrate the skin, so it actually, visibly plumps up your skin. The thing to remember is: HA molecules are like sponges; they soak up and hold water. If you apply HA to a dry face, it will pull moisture FROM your skin and you then look and feel worse. So you must apply it to damp skin so the HA pulls the water from the surface and brings it into the deeper layers of your skin.  Will wrinkles disppear entirely? Nope, not after almost 50 years. but it certainly softens the fine lines.  (and HA is what they inject into your face if one wanted "fillers."). This also dries quickly.

4). Vitamin C serum for brightening, fading dark patches, and rebuilding collagen. Ascorbic acid is notoriously unstable, so I use a different type of vitamin C called BV-OSC that is way more stable, and also waaaaay more bioavailable to the skin. I also use the NXN brand, and it's lovely. 

5) If it's daytime, I'll also use a Charlotte Tilbury "Magic Serum Crystal Elixir" (which is quite possibly the worst name ever because it sounds like total snake oil) for some extra moisture and some brightening. It has the tiniest amount of shimmer that looks really nice during the day and under my makeup. I skip this in the evening though, because it causes my moisturizer to pill up. 

6) I'll finish up with a moisturizer. I had been using the absolutely glorious Bobbi Brown Vitamin-Enriched Face Base, which is a thick, shea-butter-based face cream that is the perfect base layer under makeup. It seals in all of the moisture and goodies from my skincare routine, and it also smooths/spackles over some fine lines and wrinkles so my makeup goes on smoothly.  It's very thick (which I LOVE), but I'm curious what that'll be like for gigs under hot lights, or for summertime. We'll soon find out!   I also recently bought a new moisturizer for evening (though it's also really nice for daytime) called LXMI, which is a fair-trade, organic, no-bullshit, absolutely divine moisturizer that feels SO UNFATHOMABLY GOOD (ALL CAPS NECESSARY) that I find myself wanting to wear it instead of the Bobbi Brown.  Before out last CoffeeBreakConcert I did one side of my face with the Bobbi Brown and the other side with the LXMI and they both performed beautifully. So, no real preference right now, but again, that may change when the weather gets really warm. 

7) If it's nightime, I'll finish with La Neige's lip treatment, which is some kind of witchcraft. Jenn had turned me onto it when we visited Sephora together in 2018 or so. I still have the same pot of it-- it lasts forever and it is glorious. 

So that's the skincare routine. I'm trying to train myself to sleep on my back as opposed to smooshing my face by sleeping on my side. I have a frozen shoulder, so this has been easier. I also bought a pillowcase made out of copper thread, which apparently NASA uses for the astronauts to keep skin building collagen in space. If it's good enough for astronauts it's good enough for me! 

My makeup routine has also changed a bit. I've decided to remove silicones from my skincare/makeup as much as humanly possible, and they are in everythiiiiiing... but I've managed to find products without it. Yay! 

Anyway, I'm a disciple of Wayne Goss (he's a very down-to-earth, no-drama, very kind, brief-and-to-the-point YouTube makeup guru, focusing on women over 40), and he's a fan of skin that looks like skin, and not skin that looks like makeup. So I've been taking a minimalist approach, which has kinda always been my deal anyway, but now it's more mindful.  I might do funky and age-inappropriate eye makeup, but as far as my skin is concerned, less is more. I save full-face foundation for gigs, and for day-to-day, I just use some  strategically-placed corrector and concealer, slap on a very light dusting powder, then blush, bronzer, and highlighter, and it looks great. It sounds like a lot, but there's barely any makeup on my skin. 

Anyway, I've been taking two photos of my makeup-less face immediately after I do my skincare routine before bed-- one shot from the front (head-on), and another shot from the right-side so we can see this one scar/wrinkle thing I have and use that to gauge improvement. 

I was hoping to be able to post those photos here, but it's almost 7am and I haven't been to sleep yet, so I'll do that after I wake up. 

Good night/morning! 
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I am so, so, so heartbroken to report the passing of the magnificent Jay Frank (he sang Tenor 2, and was from Scotch Plains-Fanwood High School). Jay was one hell of a musician, a quick witted and funny guy, a generous, selfless soul, and above everything, a GOOD person. He had an encyclopedic knowledge of bands, albums, music, liner notes, and talking music was a favorite pastime. Jay was always smiling, and even when he was serious there was a twinkle in his eye.

I met Jay in NJ All State Chorus in 1988. We both sang tenor, and we became fast friends through music nerdery, dumb jokes, and believing in our hearts that choir was cool. We rode the train together from NJ to Boston in 1989 when we were both selected to sing in the elite MENC All Eastern Chorus, and I remember us laughing on the entire train ride, just cracking each other up. I can picture his black and brown Chess King-esque sweater he wore, his boofy Richard Marx haircut that he rocked, and his giant smile.

We lost touch after college as friends often do, but we reconnected thanks to Twitter and Instagram. In 2014 he took time out of his ridiculously busy SXSW to see my band in a showcase, and we wound up hanging out until the wee hours of the morning, sitting outside on some Austin restaurant patio, yapping as if not a moment had passed. He spoke so lovingly about his wife and daughter, and how he loved them so deeply-- he showed us pictures of their lives in TennesseeI met Jay Hi, all.

We lost touch during and after college, but from afar I watched his meteoric rise in the music industry, as he wrote books on hit-song composition (most notably "FutureHit DNA"), worked for the world's largest music organizations (MTV, Yahoo Music, The Box, CMT, and Universal Music Group) and also started his own music label (DigSin, which focused on singles as opposed to albums), and so much more. Much of how people consume music today in the digital realm (as well as how digital music sales, streams, and YouTube views are calculated and included in song rankings) is largely due to Jay's ideas and influence. Yes, really, for real.
In 2014 we reconnected thanks to Twitter and Instagram, and after almost 25 years we met up at SXSW. Despite his insanely busy schedule there as a music industry heavyweight, he still somehow made time to see my band Hot Breakfast play at a SXSW showcase. Afterwards, we sat outside on a slightly-drizzly Austin TX restaurant patio for hours and hours and yapped into the night, cracking each other up as if not a day had past since 1989.

Jay Frank and Jill Knapp hanging out at SXSW in 2014. Jay is showing Jill something on his phone, but Jill is mugging for the camera.  Their hair looks goofy because it was drizzling out. Jay Frank is showing Jill Knapp a photo on his phone. They are laughing at the shot, whatever it is. They are sitting on a couch on an outdoor patio of an Austin TX restaurant during SXSW 2014. Their hair looks goofy because it had been drizzling out.

Greg Robleto, Jay Frank, Jill Knapp, and Matt Casarino around 11pm at SXSW 2014. The four of us are sitting on a couch posing for a photo, and Jay is making a funny "fake angry" face and making a hand gesture as if he's about to squash someone's head.

I never had the honor of meeting his wife and daughter whom he loved so, so, so dearly; but that night he showed me photos and kvelled over what fantastic humans his wife and daughter are. We made loose plans to hang out the next time I was in his adopted city of Nashville. He insisted Matt and I stay at his house so we could hang out with his family.
 
He had been battling cancer, apparently; but he chose to keep it hidden from most people. My understanding is that in recent weeks his health had declined rapidly.
My deepest condolences to his mom, his wife, and his daughter. Please keep them in your thoughts. Image
 
xtingu: (singing)
Tonight (Monday night) was Night 1 of our 6-night Beatlefest, and it went really well. We particularly nailed "With Love from Me To You,"  "A Taste of Honey," "Please Please Me," "All My Lovin'" , and the guest-singer songs were killer ("Chains," "Roll Over Beethoven," "Boys," "Twist and Shout," "You Really Got A Hold On Me," and another one I'm forgetting). 

Tonight's guests were the kick-ass Samantha Poole who sings with The Stoneshakers (and she has a music degree if memory serves), and our favorite human and music-comedian Todd Chappelle whom Hot Breakfast plays with often. Todd is primarily known for being a comedy musician, so it was really cool to watch people now view him  as a rock guy who can front a band and kick arse. Sam and Todd are great performers, too... effortless, the crowd loves them, and they rock. We're so happy they were on board! 

To (Tuesday) is my iron infusion at long last. I wish it wasn't on a Beatlefest day because my days are busy prepping and reviewing for that evening, and I also am afraid of my arm being impaired after a 4-hour infusion. Of every possible Beatlefest night, Night 2 (Tuesday) is the best time to get an infusion since it's the night I do the least of all 6 nights. And since it takes about 1-2 days to really kick in, I'll hopefully  be feeling newly-recharged for Thursday night, which is the big night where we play 3 albums instead of our usual two albums.  

Stefan flew in late last night (or early this morning, depending on how you view 12:45am) and he'll be here all week. He doesn't play until Wednesday night, but we just love having him here. He's so much fun to be around, he's hilarious, helpful, he's great to philosophize with, and he keeps people amused in the green room. :-)  

Anyway, I have my infusion in the morning so I'm gonna end this now. 

Yay!
xtingu: (singing)
 (I wrote this at 4:00am on Saturday morning.)

 

Hi, all!

It's been go-go-go land here, so I apologize for not writing or generally being more present or responsive. I have been reading everyone else's blogs here and trying to comment where I can, but that's about all I can offer for the next 8-9 days or so.

We are now just a few days away from  the start of Beatlefest 2019. It's going to be the same format as last year, in the same location, etc.

The biggest change for me is that instead of using three enormous 3-ring notebooks full of sheet music, I'm trying to use my new tablet that I bought expressly for this purpose. I struggled so much last year juggling several percussion instruments and having to turn pages, so I needed something electronic with a bluetooth foot pedal. I labored over my decision, and I chose the Boox Onyx Max2 Pro, 13.3" e-ink tablet, so it's crazy-light, and easy on the eyes, and displays a sheet of music at full Letter Page size that my 48-year-old eyeballs can read.  I've been using this amazing app called MobileSheets Pro which is everything you want in a music-performance device. 

Sadly, the app that stores all of my sheet music (including all of the notes I hand-wrote myself telling me when and what to play as well as things to look out for)  completely blew up last night (just 11 hours ago) and I lost 4 days' worth of the notes I transcribed from my paper notes from last year. I am heartbroken. The app developer is ridiculously awesome and helpful, so he may be able to salvage some of it. I am not hopeful, but we're trying.
 

It's very late right now (or early, depending on how you view days)-- I've been trying to fix this since 5:30pm and now it's 4:09am (good morning, Jenn!). I need to sleep... I'm no good for troubleshooting at this hour.

Today (Saturday) at noon, we core-band BeatleFest people move into the venue/ theater and get everything wired up for sound, and then we run a quick sound check with the core band.  Then the strings, horns, and Indian musicians come in Sunday to get them wired up and rehearsed.  

And then we start Beatlefest on Monday the 29th, and it runs every night until Saturday August 3rd. Hoo-boy! 

 

In other news, my iron levels have crashed, but I go for an infusion on Tuesday the 30th (yep, a Beatlefest day). That was the fastest they could get me in, so I'll take it... and hopefully I'll be feeling magically awesome by Thursday night when I really need to be thinking clearly. It's remarkable how fuzzy my brain is when it doesn't get oxygen. 

 

Away we go!

xtingu: (beehat)
 Thinking a lot about D-Day today. The NY Times had a lot of really powerful, moving articles with gorgeous, haunting photos in it. 

I cannot understand how some assfaces can look at those photos and read the accounts and think either that the holocaust was fake, the photos are fake, that Hitler and/or Nazis were fine people, or any of that.  

Reading that there are only 3% of WWII veterans left (who are all over 90) makes me wonder how we can make this history feel real and urgent to younger generations who only think of WWII as some random they had to memorize for a history test once. 

You hear so many people say, "My dad fought in the war, but he never ever would talk about it." So any chance of hearing stories first-hand were probably scarce to begin with, and now are dwindling so rapidly. 

When I was in high school, I was one of those people who didn't care about history, but now it fascinates me. Matt's folks take tons of classes at Delaware's Center for Lifelong Learning, and in a few years I'll be old enough to attend (I believe you have to be 50, though it might be 55). Matt's dad has taken a few classes on WW1, The Great Depression, WWII, and beyond. He said he's learned so much from listening to these historians with a knack for public speaking/teaching. 

Anyway, here are links to some really interesting articles if you wanna check 'em out:

D-Day in Photos: Heroes of a More Certain Time. (The photos are unreal. There's this one shot of a bunch of bandaged guys waiting to be taken to the hospital, and I noticed one guy up front has impossibly great hair considering where he is and what he just went through that day. But then it occurred to me that his big, boofy hair that I consider "impossibly great hair" was WAY too long at that time. Matt's dad said you could tell how long someone had been fighting by how long their hair was.)

Their Fathers Never Spoke of the War. Their Children Want to Know Why. (This article is about how historians are able to piece together pretty detailed pictures and descriptions of a particular soldier's every day life during the war, thanks to meticulous recordkeeping. Some of those records were damaged in a fire, but what remains is still pretty impressive.)

‘Archaeology of D-Day’ Aims to Preserve What the Soldiers Left BehindThe title says it all. 


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Editor's Note: I wrote this entry on April 15th. I'm just getting around to posting it now. It's a melange of topics, separated by headings. 


Tornado Warning!

I wrote this on Twitter this morning (April 15th), and I'm going to be lazy and copy/paste the tweet-storm:

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1) Holy crap. I haven't been sleeping well for the last few nights... and last night my body said "ENOUGH." Like a Roomba driving itself back to its dock, my body auto-piloted itself to bed at 11:15. (This is unheard of for me... I usually hit the hay around 4:30am.)

2) Normally I wake up 8-9 times over the course of a night/morning, and like an ass I always check my phone when I wake up, which naturally makes it harder to fall back asleep. This did not happen last night... I slept SO HARD. I knew nothing.

3) I'm also a huge weather and safety nerd; my ears are finely-tuned to detect any and all weather-related sounds (distant thunder, wind, rain, etc.), as well as weird noises in/outside the house. I sleep with one ear open, and these sounds always wake me up. Not last night.

4) I just woke up now (8:43am) to a bazillion missed phone alerts from 3-4am (including one of those incredibly loud Emergency Alerts sent via the Powers The Be™) commanding I "take immediate shelter from the [goddamn] TORNADO." I missed 'em all. That scares me on 2 levels.

5) It scares me 'cuz it's always been my job to be in charge of weather safety. I like keeping aware of wx threats, stocking a modest emergency kit, and making the rare "it's time to get in the basement" call. I like this job. I missed this completely; we could have been hurt.

6) It also scares me that my body was SO exhausted that it could not be awoken, even for a substantial threat, and despite a zillion warnings that surely made my phone scream. What does this say about the state of my anemic body, that a zillion alarms didn't even make me flinch?

7) Anyway, I really hope everyone is safe. I haven't yet looked at damage reports yet (hell; haven't even looked out the window yet) and judging by the sheer number of alerts, I imagine there's gotta be some. I'm just hoping people heeded them and erred on the safe side. (Fin)

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After I wrote all that, I started investigating why my phone's emergency alert didn't wake me. I keep my phone on Silent 99% of the time; however, I remember when President Cheeto sent that Presidential Alert a few months back, that shizzle came through loud and clear. So why didn't this Actual Alert make a sound? I went digging through my phone's settings and even RTFM and still couldn't find the answer, so... I dunno.
Anyhoo, there was an F2 tornado that touched down at 3:38am in Sussex County[1], so that tornado warning was real. Thankfully nobody died; I believe there was only one injury caused by a tree falling on someone's house... yikes.

And thankfully, my worry above was for naught... I was really concerned that I slept through crazy alarms that should wake the dead and holy-lord-am-I-that-anemic-and-dead-that-even-that-couldn't-wake-me?! But the alarm was silent, so I just slept like a normal person. No crisis!


Early Birthday Weekend
(I wrote this on April 15th)

My birthday is coming up on Wednesday of this week (me and George Takei!). As an early birthday gift, Matt bought us tickets to see Billy Joel at Madison Square Garden. This is the 4th time we've seen him at MSG since he started his residency, and he sounded amazing, as always. I scored us a hotel near Times Square, and we could see the New Years Eve Ball from our hotel window. Thankfully the hotel entrance is away from the crowd, so we could avoid the tourons and belligerent buskers in Elmo and SpiderMan and Statue of Liberty costumes. We took the train up (admittedly, a decadent gift to ourselves) and arrived around 3-ish, so we enjoyed the 20-block walk to the hotel, grabbed a cup of coffee and a few fronch macarons along the way, and checked right into the hotel. After freshening up, we went to our favorite restaurant (a Turkish place, creatively named "Turkish Cuisine,") and had an amazing meal as always, and then walked to MSG. We entered the venue and took the escalator up to the 100 section, and then walked to the door marked "Sections 111-115." The usher looked at our tickets and said "Oh, NICE! Which one of you bought these tickets?" Matt said, "That was me." The usher turned to me and said, "This guy right here? He done good. Enjoy the show." He handed us off to a different usher who walked us down to our seats... closer and closer to the stage... to the front row of Section 115. HOLY CRAP! We were as close as you could possibly get to the stage without being on the floor... which means we could see absolutely everything. In fact, we were so close that I could read the brand of gear on the sound guy's mixing board. It was SO GREAT! We sat next to some friendly drunk people in their late 50s and after just generally chatting, our Billy Joel tribute band might get a gig out of the deal. (One of the couples was verrrrrrrry wealthy and had flown up from South Carolina just to see this show. The husband is turning 60 and they want to do something extra amazing for him, so we said, "Why not hire a Billy Joel tribute band?" The wife gave us her phone number. Who knows?)

After the show, we walked back to the hotel in the pouring rain, and stopped for dessert and a nightcap at Cafe Un Deux Trois, which was lovely.

The next morning we went to this diner we really like (The Times Square Diner- though don't let the name fool you-- it's not particularly touristy), and then we headed over to Central Park to walk around and then go to the zoo. We got to see the sea lions, all of the amazing birds in the Tropic zone, and also Matt's favorites-- the puffins.

We made sure to leave the zoo by 3:45ish so we could catch a cab to Sam Ash, which is a giant music store right by Penn Station. I needed to pick up a few more percussion gadgets for this Genesis show I'm playing in (see "Percussion" below) and wound up spending almost $450. Whoops... oh well. Happy Birthday to me, I guess!



Another Birthday...
My brother's birthday and mine are two years + one day apart. He's 4/16 and I'm 4/17. He turns 50 in 14 minutes! For his big 5-0, he decided he wanted to go to the most beautiful place he'd ever seen, which is Assisi, Italy. He went there in high school, when our high school used to arrange annual trips to Europe (which they natually discontinued once it came time for me to be old enough to go). Since 1987 he's been saying it's the most beautiful place he's ever been to, and how he'd give anything to go back. So, they gathered up their immediate family and headed over there. My sister-in-law and my youngest niece left 5 days early so they could visit a friend in Israel, and then they met my brother, my nephew, and my oldest niece in Italy. I'm so happy they're able to experience this all together. It's also kinda neat that Jack (my nephew) is the same age that Jeff (my brother) was when he first saw Assisi.

We'll be having the Knapp Family Easter Passover Birthday Goulash next weekend in NJ.



Percussion!
The next musical thing I'm involved in is a live performance of Genesis' double album "The Lamb Lies Down on Broadway" with The Rock Orchestra. We're not dressing like Peter Gabriel or anything, but we are playing the hell out of this music. The band has been rehearsing for about 2 months now, but every weekend they rehearsed I had to be in NJ for something. But for this show, they can definitely rehearse without me, because I'm just playing percussion and provding some secondary backing vocals. (Joe has this other woman Chris singing primary backing vocals. Whenever there are two backing vocal parts at once, I'll jump in. But the percussion is keeping me plenty busy. It's so much fun!)

I sent these tweets on the train ride home:

1: Just spent almost $450 on more percussion toys at @samashmusic in NYC. There's so much fun percussion on Genesis' #TheLambLiesDownOnBroadway, and I get to play it all, twice in one day, with @RockOrchestraDE on Saturday, May 18th at 3pm and 8pm. Shows at @TheGrandWilm. Wheee!

2: Bought some monkey skulls (pitched woodblocks), mountable castanets, a snake spine (ratchet), & an ultra-lite tambourine for crazy-fast 32nd notes. Also bought 2 expansion trays for my percussion stand for quick/easy access; sometimes I only have 2 beats to switch instruments.

3: Got yet another shaker: This one is REALLY bright/crisp/loud & really cuts through. Has a great feel/swing/weight. My fave purchase: A Flexatone! Gonna follow @Casarino around in case he sees something eerie, catches a chill, or eats Jello. (
Helpful Example!)


OK, gonna post this now.



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[1]: Sussex County is Delaware's southernmost county-- we only have three, stacked on top of each other since Delaware is a tall, skinny state. We live in New Castle County, the northernmost one.

xtingu: (hotbreakfast)
Tonight (Friday) we'll be playing our first gig in a while. A band we love very much, The Honey Badgers, are having their album release show and asked us to open... and we were flattered since we're almost 20 years older than them. (We have this tired 'joke' about how they are the younger, more attractive acoustic duo who is also a couple with the band initials "HB.") They played at our very first CD release show in 2013, so it'll be nice to return the favor.

Erin has a music degree in voice/violin, and her voice is like velvet. She cares so much about singing well, which I sooo appreciate, but she is also so effortless in it, which I am sooo jealous of. :-) Her husband Michael is a science guy and a computer guy, and while not as musically-trained as Erin, he has such innate musicality and plays a zillion instruments, and their voices blend so, so, so well. They play folk, but it's not sleepy folk.

The show is upstairs at The Queen, but thankfully it's not a LiveNation show (it's just a rental) so tickets are not expensive because there aren't $73,938 in TicketMaster fees tacked on.

Matt and I open the show at 8pm sharp, and we'll play a truncated set (35 mins). I'll also be singing lead on a Honey Badgers song during during their set, and then joining them on the final two tunes.

We're looking forward to this show because we'll get to play two songs we don't get to play often at all... but since this is a folk/listening audience, we can bust out two songs that really reward the listener for paying attention to the lyrics. (Matt writes a great damn song. Playwright lyricists, man. Nomz.)

You can buy tix online only until 8am on the 15th (so 6 hours from now); otherwise you'll have to buy them at the door; there should be about 10 available at the door, I'm guessing. The good news is that your ticket stub (or your ticket receipt if ya bought it online already) can be brought to the Stich House Brewery down the street on 8th and Market for 10% off your whole bill, before and/or after the show. Wheee!

Ok, going to bed.



(PS: This is not me trying to convince anyone to go. We gauge our success on how many non-friends (organic fans) come to the show. I hate when bands make their money by guilting their friends into paying their rent, essentially. Not cool. Nobody owes me anything. 😊)



(PPS' My sleepy meds have just kicked in. I wanted to write about The Homey Awards that were tonight, and were fun. Will write more tomorrow.)
xtingu: (geek)
Hi all!

Verizon had a huge cell outage earlier this week, and because of that, Matt and I aren't able to receive MMSes. (MMSes are fancy texts-- so any text with a photo or sound attachment, or text-only texts sent to multiple people at once.)

We can still receive simple texts (SMSes)... meaning text-only texts sent to one person at a time, though. So at least that's something.

I don't know when Verizon is going to have this fixed, but until it is... if you need to reach me, email is best. If you need to use text, just make sure you're only sending it to me at once, and it's not part of a group text.

Apologies. I know it's annoying. :-(
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Feb. 27th, 2019 10:02 pm

Illin'

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Yesterday morning Matt had to get some bloodwork done, so we got up early (well, early for us) and got that taken care of, and then went to brunch.Ā  When we got back, Matt said, "Oh man, I think I might be coming down with something. I'm not entirely sure... I just feel kinda off." That was around 1:30.

By 5:00 Matt had a 99.4 degree fever, and by 8:30 it was 101.7 and he was praying that the sweet lord would just let him die. He had the power-pukes of doom (though he admittedly felt better after Round 3), and the cold/hot/ugh of the fever, and this awful cough that came from the pit of his soul.

Around 11pm my pal Kerry texted me and mentioned that she had the similar plague the day before, but thankfully it seemed to be a 24 hour thing because she felt 89% better.Ā Ā 

Matt debated taking something to knock his fever down, but we agreed that we shouldn't mess with millennia of evolution, and that we should just let the fever cook out whatever it needed to.Ā  We did give him a delicious Wal-Som to knock him out though, and he slept fairly well through the night despite a few puke-breaks.

He woke up this morning and his fever is back down to 99.4, and he feels better than he did yesterday but is still bed-ridden.

I am avoiding him as much as possible, which means I'm sleeping in the guest room, and staying out of our bedroom unless I absolutely have to go in there to bring him something.Ā  Poor guy.

This wouldn't be a big deal, but this weekend is a Really Important Weekend.

On Friday, Matt has his very first gig with 53rd & 3rd, which is a brand-new Ramones tribute band that he's the lead singer for.Ā  Matt has never fronted a band without also holding a guitar before, and he's nervous (though very prepared). He reaaaaaally doesn't want to be sick for this. I suppose the good news is that the gig is about 7 minutes from our house, and if worse came to worst, he could show up, sing, and leave.Ā  This isn't what we want, of course.

On Saturday, Matt and I are part of this really neat show called "Shine a Light," which is a 50+ musician fundraising show that raises dinero for the Light Up The Queen Foundation, which raises money for Delaware schools that lost their arts/music funding. It also runs a jazz school, and does some other cool things, too.Ā  It's held on the big stage downstairs at The Queen, and it's almost already sold out.Ā Tickets are $125 each, and VIP tix are $250... so it's a pretty big to-do.Ā  Anyway, each year's concert has a theme, and this year we're doing all songs from 1969. It's a prestigious thing, and this is our first year being a part of it.Ā  As Freshmen members, we are singing backups and are in the horn section... so no lead singer or guitar duties, but honestly, we really like being right where we are.Ā 

Anyway, Saturday's show is an all-day thing... we have to arrive by 3 so we can be all sound-checked and cleared off the stage by 6 because that's when the house opens for the VIPs.Ā  The music starts at 8.

The downside to this show is that there are over 50 players involved, so there are going to be over 50 musicians crammed into the backstage area where there is not enough room for even 20 people, really... plus I'm sure many will be drinking throughout the day/night... and as an introvert it's hard to endure not having a place to be quiet where there isn't a person (drunk or not) trying to talk to you... but it's a billion times worse when you're sick.Ā  So I'm thinking about bringing a pillow or some kind of cushion so we can sit in the stairwell where (hopefully) nobody else will be.Ā 

As for me, I feel like my body is working really hard to fight something. I'm doing everything in my power to make sure it wins.

We were in Austin all last week for work and got home on Saturday, and then Matt had a Ramones rehearsal at 10:00am on Sunday because we had an all-day dress rehearsal for Shine a Light that started at noon and went until around 7 or 8-ish (can't remember).Ā  So between travel, being on an airplane, being in two rehearsal spaces crammed with people and sharing mics and stuff and just running running running, it's no surprise the plague got a foothold.

So, we're hoping Matt feels better ASAP.

In the last bit of news: I'm typing this in procrastination, because I'm an idiot and always wait until the last possible second to get my books in shape in time for my accountant to do my business taxes and then my personal taxes. I see my accountant tomorrow at 2pm, and I am just now starting to hand-type in all of my bank and credit card transactions for the year, because naturally I am too cheap to spend the $9.95/month for Quickbooks access.

Anyway, if I owe you an email or some kind of reply, it'll likely be next week sometime. I've gotta get through this week and the weekend.

xo
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I haven't posted here since last year. Oof. Sorry.

I have a bunch of drafts, but nothing post-worthy.

Work has picked up; band stuff is busy; winter makes me want to spend all other free time huddled under the covers.

I managed to avoid the flu and plague that everyone else had that knocked folks out for 2-3 weeks at a time, so I've become even more vigilant about washing my hands so I keep this non-plaguey streak going. I get nervous around crowds because I don't wanna get sick. I don't want this to turn into a "afraid of crowds For Realzies," of course.

In other news entirely, if you feed birds, make sure you leave fruits (blueberries, slices of apple, soaked raisins, soaked dried fruits) out for the robins, because they don't eat seeds. They only eat worms and fruits, which is why they typically migrate south, with only a few opting to hang back. In recent years, more robins have chosen not to migrate (they're not sure why), so we should leave 'em some fruit-food because worms aren't out right now.

(Related: TIL that seeing your first red-breasted robin isn't the tell-tale sign that it's spring... especially because so many of them are spending their winters here. Instead, *hearing* your first robin should be your sign, because they don't sing until it's mating season, i.e., spring.)

Okay bye. :)
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Instagram: Been really inspired to create. Resurrecting some old snippets of songs we never quite finished, and creating brandy-new things, too... some funny, some sincere, but always authentic and honest. We hope you like what we're cookin'! #dorkrock #dw #songwriter #songwriting #newalbum #musicians #acousticduo #hbfb

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Dec. 14th, 2018 10:31 am

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Howdy!

We're in the throes of tech week/hell week for our "Hot Breakfast and Friends Presents: Another Very Dorky Christmas Show" happening this Saturday, December 15th at 8 (doors open at 7:15). We did this half-play/half-concert Christmas show in 2016 and it was a sellout, and we couldn't find a suitable venue in 2017, but we're doing it again this year at the 2016 venue (The Queen, on Market St. in Wilmington). However, the venue has changed ownership from an independently-owned performance space affiliated with the NPR show World Cafe Live, to it's current LiveNation... and it's a *tooooootally* different thing now, even though the space looks mostly the same. What used to be a welcoming venue is now layers and layers of bureaucracy and contracts and this one doesn't know what that one's doing and who do I talk to for this simple thing and blaaaah. But as of this morning we've sorted out most of the logistical stuff, and since the show is gonna be over 48-ish hours from now, I can't be worried anymore. It'll be fine. We're working with super-talented musicians on stage whom we trust entirely, we got some friends to lend a hand to handle backstage and front-of-house stuff, and we got Matt's cousin to make cookies (she's the head executive pastrychef at the Hotel duPont, Delaware's only zillion-star hotel). The audience would be just as happy I'm sure if we just had musicians playing Christmas and/or Hanukkah songs, but the fact that we make it into a play and give these musicians scenarios to improv-act in, it makes it a fun, silly, and festive night.

We're excited.

I'm looking forward to December 17, which is the day I officially have nothing to do. It'll be sweeeeeet.
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It's 2018, which means it's time for @hotbreakfast's 2nd live-action holiday special called "Hot Breakfast and Friends present ANOTHER Very Dorky Christmas!" ⭐ A throwback to cheezy '70s-'80s Christmas specials (the kind where Bing Crosby and David Bowie would be put in a situation to sing an awkward but beautiful duet), this music-filled, lighthearted show is the perfect respite from the hustle and bustle of the holiday season. Like our 2016 show, we'll have Mark Rogers as our trusty narrator and plenty of special guests, but this year's scenario features Jill and Matt working in a mall as elves in front of a Santa display, on hour 14 of their holiday shift. Will this dork-rock duo ever get to go home?! šŸŽŗ Featuring @boywonderrocks @honeybadgerfolk @jeastreetjr @rachelschain @tonycappella @bensmithsongs Dan Kauffman (of Glim Dropper), and @bturner75, and Mark Rogers of @937wstw as our fearless narrator once again! šŸŽ We'll be upstairs at @queenwilmington, and tickets are on sale NOW at thequeenwilmington.com! šŸŽµ Huge thanks to @gablemusicventures for being helping us pull off this ridiculous feat of coordination and silliness! šŸ’— .šŸŽ„ DEETS: The show will be upstairs at The Queen Wilmington, 500 N. Market St in Wilmington. Garage parking right next door! The Queen no longer serves food, so be sure to eat before you attend! (It's a bar only!). šŸŽ€ LINK IN BIO! šŸŽµ #dw #hbfb #dorky #livemusic #christmasshow #christmasmusic #holidayshow #holidaymusic #hanukkah #solstice #familyfriendly #varietyshow #christmasspecial #wilmingtonde #inwilm #inwilmington #inwilmingtonde

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Instagram: It's 2018, which means it's time for our 2nd live-action holiday special called "Hot Breakfast and Friends present ANOTHER Very Dorky Christmas!"
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A throwback to cheezy '70s-'80s Christmas specials (the kind where Bing Crosby and David Bowie would be put in a situation to sing an awkward but beautiful duet), this music-filled, lighthearted show is the perfect respite from the hustle and bustle of the holiday season. Like our 2016 show, we'll have Mark Rogers as our trusty narrator and plenty of special guests, but this year's scenario features us all trapped at an airport in a blizzard... can we get home in time for Christmas?
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Featuring @boywonderrocks @honeybadgerfolk @jeastreetjr @rachelschain @tonycappella @bensmithsongs Dan Kauffman (of Glim Dropper), and @bturner75, and Mark Rogers of @937wstw as our fearless narrator once again!
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We'll be upstairs at @queenwilmington, and tickets are on sale NOW at thequeenwilmington.com!
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Huge thanks to @gablemusicventures for being helping us pull off this ridiculous feat of coordination and silliness! šŸ’— .

šŸŽ„ DEETS: The show will be upstairs at The Queen Wilmington, 500 N. Market St in Wilmington. Garage parking right next door! The Queen no longer serves food, so be sure to eat before you attend! (It's a bar only!).
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#dw #hbfb #dorky #livemusic #christmasshow #christmasmusic #holidayshow #holidaymusic #hanukkah #solstice #familyfriendly #varietyshow #christmasspecial #wilmingtonde #inwilm #inwilmington #inwilmingtonde

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Instagram: TONIGHT! Saturday, November 24th at 7:30 (EARLY!) In West Chester, PA, we team up with @betterthanbaconimprov to raise funds for a worthy cause.

Let's face it... you and your family are getting antsy and need something to do-- so why not LAUGH for a good cause? Hot Breakfast opens with a blazing, all-comedy music set, and then we hand the reins over to the capable hands of Better Than Bacon for an evening of Improv!

The show is almost #soldout, but there are some seats left, so come get 'em! . Go to our website (hot-breakfast.com) for ticket and venue info!

#comedy #music #comedymusic #improv #comedyimprov #whoseline #whoselineisitanyway #charity #fundraiser #westchester #westchesterpa #goodtimes #hbfb #dw

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Woot! I get to sing, play percussion, and even play some trumpet (for real... not just @hotbreakfast-style) in this show. Can't wait! And MAN, you should hear Joe sing the everloving balls off of "Love Reign O'er Me." It actually (literally-literally) brought me to tears tonight in rehearsal. šŸŽµ ========================== repost from @rockorchestrade: ========================== WHO ARE YOU? At 8pm on Saturday, November 17, 2018 at The Grand Opera House in Wilmington, DE (818 N. Market Street), TRO presents An Evening of The Who! We are so excited to bring you the hits and even a few deep-cuts of this legendary band at this beautiful, historic theater. šŸŽ¼ Tickets are on sale NOW -- see the ticket link in our bio. šŸŽµ @thegrandwilm @inwilmde @officialthewho #thewho #dw #hbfb

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Instagram: Sooo sleepy on a @southwestair flight. Headed to Denver, but first we have a layover in Chicago Midway. Zzzzzz... #dorkrock #dw #hbfb

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Instagram: A really wonderful moment where the fabulous Julie from @sweetleda sang a beautiful Happy Birthday to our birthday boy Brian. The look on his face says it all. šŸ˜ . But let's be honest: she could sing the phone book and we'd all be pretty damn happy. :) #hbfb #dw

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For my second night of HARD WEEKEND PARTYING, for no particular reason on this here balmy Saturday night I decided to get my free annual credit report from the big three credit agencies. WOOO!!! Seriously though, it was painless and I highly recommend you do it if you haven't done it lately. Doing this takes like 5 minutes, and while it doesn't give you your credit score, it does show you a list of your open and closed credit accounts according to the Big Three credit reporting agencies (TransUnion, Experian, and Equifax) so you can make sure there aren't any accounts opened in your name that you didn't authorize. You can also see what companies have done a "soft credit check" on you so they can send you those annoying free "you've been pr-approved!" offers in the mail... these soft credit checks don't impact your credit score, but it's interesting to see who's been sniffing around.

So, to get your free annual credit reports from each of the big three go to AnnualCreditReport.com which sounds scammy, but it's the only site the government has approved). It is totally free, painless, and a good idea. (Some folks like to check all three agencies at once, once per year. Other folks like to pick one agency in January, another agency in May, and the final agency a few in Septemberish, just so you can keep a more constant eyeball throughout the year. I'm not that vigilant, so doing all three at once was just ducky for me.)

Also: Fortune Magazine told me that as of September 21st, a new law went into effect that says that the big three credit reporting agencies must offer you the ability to freeze your credit for free. Freezing your credit is a good idea, and it is painless. A credit freeze simply means that nobody can apply for credit under your name while the freeze is in place... not even you. So if/when you want to apply for a new credit card or get a loan or whatever, just jump back online and unfreeze your account, which takes two seconds. So clicky on the Fortune Magazine linky at the top of this paragraph here, and it'll take you right to the Free Freeze pages for the Big Three.

Enjoy!
Oct. 2nd, 2018 07:36 am

Bed bed bed

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In the '90s, I bought the cheapest, crappiest best I could afford on my temp-agency salary when I lived in Arizona, and slept on a god-awful bed for years. Ā 

Finally in 2004 I was making "a nice wage" (as my brother would once write) and splurged on an expensive mattress/boxspring set for almost $800, which was hella spendy back then. I bought a Serta Perfect Sleeper Modesto, and it was deemed by many people to be The World's Most Comfy Bed. (I don't know how to type that without it making me sound like a slut. I'm just saying I was proud of my purchase because it was one of the only nice things I owned, so lots of people tried it.)

They say you should replace your mattress every seven years, though that may just be the mattress companies telling you that... but for the last 9 or so years or so it was pretty obvious that the non-Jill side of the bed was significantly lower and more broken/sunken in (read: broken) than my side of the bed. Matt's back has been bugging him now for a while, so we decided it was time to buy a new mattress.

I take after my mom-- I am not a shopper. I have noooo interest in going to 12 different places to find the best price and compare 47 different things; I just want to walk in, try a few items, and buy the one that I like that also offers the least amount of hassle. I don't care if this means I might pay $3.69 extra for something. I've got a life to lead.Ā 

So yesterday we looked online to see what stores in the area sold Serta Perfect Sleepers in hopes of getting a mattress close to what I've got now (only not broken on one side). We decided to hit the Concord Mall on 202 where we could go to Sears and Boscovs in one shot, and then head over to Raymour and Flanagan if those didn't pan out.Ā 

On our way to the mall we passed Raymour and Flanagan,Ā so we said "screw it" and went there first. (50,000 points for Matt's fast reflexes and driving skills.)Ā  We walked in and were greeted by a lovely saleslady who showed us a bunch of mattresses. She was a good salesperson with just the right amount of personable gab, but also knew when to leave us alone. She'd clearly been to Mattress Selling School, asking questions about how we sleep, if we have back problems, what we like/don't like, telling us all about the best type of mattress for hinky spinal injuries, and I'm not gonna lie... we settled on the most expensive one we tried. She didn't even try to force us into it; it was just the most comfortable. We are thrifty in most other aspects of our life, so why not splurge on a thing where we spend 70% of our time? (We spend a LOT of time lounging in bed; waaaaaay more than your average human). (Another way I take after my mother.)

This bed is like a magical cloud made of unicorn fur, the down from angel wings, and the pure love... and it apparently will help keep Hot Flash Jill cool during sweaty nights. I'm skeptical, but hopeful... because right now I have a stack of towels next to the bed that I rotate in and out throughout the night. (In fact, that's why I started writing this blog entry at 6-something AM... the bed was soaked and it woke me up. Sexy.)

They have next day delivery, so it should be coming today. (actually, the delivery guy just called and said he'll be here between 10-1. Woot!)Ā  They'll take away the old mattress and box-spring and set up the new bed, plus there's a 100-night no-questions-asked return period. I liked that there were no hidden or extra charges... the price is the price and you don't have to pay for delivery or setup or taking away the old mattress, yadda yadda.Ā 

We opted for a split box-spring hoping we might move to NYC someday where narrow stairwells would make getting a queen-sized boxspring into an apartment potentially tricky. It felt nice to be thinking ahead.Ā 

I feel like I'm saying goodbye to a friend that got me through some really important years of my life... but it also feels nice to be buying a thing with Matt as a couple. We don't really have anything like that, really; we just have my stuff and his stuff all co-mingled, but nothing that is *ours.*Ā  It only took us seven years to make this leap. :-)



In other news, we went to NYC this past week to see Steven Page's new trio at the Highline Ballroom on Tuesday night. We were supposed to go with Jeff and Mindy, but they were busy so we went with Brian Marshall and Tom Moynahan.Ā  Steve was funny, smart, sounded great, and did a great mix of old and new stuff.Ā  Matt and I grabbed a hotel (yay, Hilton points!) and slept in the Financial District, right at the foot of the Brooklyn Bridge in Manhattan, an area of the city we'd never stayed in before, and it felt like it could be home. Ā We saw an apartment building we loved, and a two-bedroom is only $7500/month sooooooo we won't be moving into that particular building anytime soon I guess. :). But it did have a great Australian breakfast/lunch place nearby called "Hole In The Wall" which was deeeelicious, and I had my very first flat-white, which is a coffee-drink originated in either Australia or New Zealand (they argue over it)... it's like a latte except the milk isn't frothy at all (it's flat; get it?). I'd wanted to try one forever, and it lived up to the hype.Ā 

Anyhoo, it's 7:55am and I woke up in a puddle of sweat about 45 minutes ago, so I'm ready to go back to sleep. I'm turning my ringer on nice and loud so I can hear the bed delivery guy's call. (He called! They'll deliver between 10 and 1.)

It's hard to believe this is the last morning I'll be sleeping/snoozing on this bed.Ā 

Thank you, bed. You've been the best bed.Ā 


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PS: The weather has been absolutely GLORIOUS the last few days, hasn't it? Man, this season (aka 'the Fifth Season') is by far my favorite season. 75 degree days, low humidity, slightly foggy mornings, starry nights, sleeping with the windows open... so good!


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