23.3 Backport of #52634 - init and destroy ares channel on demand.

[arthurpassos]

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Backport: ClickHouse#52634

Remove mutex from CaresPTRResolver and create ares_channel on demand. Trying to fix: ClickHouse#52327 (comment)

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[Enmk]

LGTM