Bangkok report

While I'm living it up in Bangkok - Sin City - I wonder if anyone reading this has ever explored the world of the Demonia Club (formerly The Cave).

The initial impression is that in any interesting version of "anything goes" Bangkok, what is described as a fetish club is largely concerned with BDSM which is a bit on the edge of my personal area of interests.



The place seems to offer a mixture of traditional Bangkok fayre - bars full of girls there largely to satisfy the whim of almost entirely male customer-base, (vis-a-vis the website lists prices to buy drinks for the girls which is the standard way to pay for their attentions), plus a sex show with a BDSM slant, plus the suggestion that you can take part on either side.



The setup clearly has a very strong BDSM look to it and may be rather to heavy for many readers to be actively interested in exploring.

However, explore a little further and it does seem to offer some "scenes" that I for one find an interest in. The website shows a number of such scenes as seen below.

The girl in red seems to feature on the receiving end several times. I suppose I'm thinking it looks like I might find about 10% of the action interesting, but I'm fascinated to know two things - is it really possible to get involved at this place, and is there anywhere around that's run on similar lines but more to our tastes?

The website says "Based in Bangkok, Thailand. Demonia specializes in Fetishes, BDSM, the bizarre, the imaginative and the erotic for men, women and couples. At Demonia you come to find a Mistress or submissive, with whom you can play out your fantasy, or just watch the athmosphere (sic) and enjoy real bondage in Bangkok."

Can anyone shed any light on what it's like? I've walked past a couple of times but I think I'd like to hear from others before exploring further.

Quick test for you!

So, last week, I'm going around my local ASDA doing my weekly shop and I get bored with fruit and vegetables and wander over to stationery where I spot a new product I've not seen before - a FLEXI RULER. As you can see it looks like a normal 12 inch ruler but when you pick it up you discover that it's, er, well, flexible.

Allow me to demonstrate...

So what goes through my mind? Is it...

a) Can't see much point to that unless you intend to measure 'round curves with it, or

b) That's a neat idea, because it wouldn't get snapped in the bottom of a school bag, or

c) Wonder if it stings?

Okay, I'd put money on that the sort of people who read this page, like me, all went for answer (c) straight away which is, of course, why I bought it. It's a very convenient size and could be used on someone OTK, it's safer than a hard wooden ruler on the palm of the hand, and it looks to have good potential for what my old maths teacher in primary school used to describe as "a good whizzing 'round the back of the legs."

What I'm lacking at present is a young lady who would like me to try it out on her so I had to resort to trying it on myself which is never as good but does at least give me an idea of what it's effects might be. I can report that it does sting and the flexibility allows you to use a bit more force than you might with a rigid rule - result of one firm stroke on the palm of my hand and it was still uncomfortably sore ten minutes later which I find unusual. It's also a bit less noisy than many similar items so could be useful in hotel rooms.

Now all I need is a young lady - say 18-30 - and preferably in the North East of England...

Yippee! I'm back

It's been quite a month but I'll try to make up for lost time. Anyway to kick things off, I just had in the post a new Rosie Nieper catalogue. For those who don't know, they're mainly quite witty slogans but all very vanilla stuff. Apart, this time, from this one...

The toy I always wanted

When I was a kid there was one toy that - year after year - I hoped someone would buy me but never did. I used to love playing with them when I went other kids houses but never had my own. Probably I would never have had the patience to do anything good with it but I just wanted an Etch-a-Sketch.

Now the American Spanking Society have shown just what is possible if you can be bothered. If I'd seen this before I just might have bought one myself!

Chelsea changes

Women all over the UK seemed to be devastated by the departure from Chelsea Football Club (soccer) on their manager Jose Mourinho (a.k.a. The Special One) and his subsequent replacement by the (largely unknown) Avram Grant. While admitting that Mourinho's press conferences were a delight, the change seems rather less devastating to me - perhaps because of the headline in The Sunday Times on 23rd September proclaiming THE CHELSEA GIRL READY FOR A SPANKING.

This refers to Avram Grant's wife, Tzofit Grant, who is a 42 year old TV-host in Israel where she has variously bathed in liquid chocolate and, more interestingly, received a spanking from a practising sado-masochist. No pictures of the actual spanking so far (if you have one, I'd love to see it...) but quite a few others of the lady concerned. And I for one wouldn't mind helping out if she's missing her experiences from back home...

Posting problems etc

I haven't really gone quiet on this - actually I've been seething. I installed some updates to the security software on my PC and it barred me from my own blog. After trying a million things that made no difference it seems to have just given up and let me back in again.

One a more relevant note - I was stuck in a traffic jam on Friday behind some large ugly Ford MPV thing - the nice bit about it was the name of the model - didn't like the car much but I do feel tempted by one called the S-MAX...

Wannabe pole dancer

I probably should be posting this videoclip because the wannabe pole dancer gets a swat across her behind right at the start. Actually, I must admit, I'm posting it more because of the consequences of her getting carried away...

Effective punishment

A long time ago - I think I'm writing in saying I would have been five years old - I witnessed a girl in my class on the receiving end of corporal punishment. This was a very rare event - normally you just had to stand in a corner, put your hands on your head, or stand on your chair. The girl was called Diane and she sat with her twin brother. I still don't know what she did but suddenly the teacher swept to the back of the classroom where Diane was sitting, seized her arm and pulled her to her feet. The girl would have been wearing the school uniform skirt and, because it was summer, short white ankle socks. The teacher managed to turn Diane 'round and said something like "Don't ever do that again." while she punctuated each word of the sentence with a slap across the lower half of Diane's legs before pushing the unfortunate girl back on to her seat. Diane just sat there quietly crying and nothing more was said. By break time Diane was a bit more composed but very quiet - however I noticed that there were unmistakable red fingermarks across her legs. There was no hiding the fact that she'd been punished and that must have been so humiliating in itself when she was in the playground. I never saw anyone else get similar treatment but it made a big impact on me at the time.

Returning to an earlier theme...

I posted once before on this subject but had to revisit it.

The number of ordinary people at the very least willing to allow someone to give them a good smack, and at times seeming to actively encourage people to give them a good hard spanking, and, moreover happy for the resulting images to be posted publicly on the Internet is truly amazing.

However, what to me seems all the more remarkable are their reactions. Some seem unperturbed at people seeing that they appear to actively enjoy the experience. Others seem genuinely surprised to discover that it hurts! Perhaps people are increasingly unlikely to have had first-hand or even second-hand experience of corporal punishment while growing up but even so, would you not imagine that exposing your backside to being hit with a long implement delivered with some force might actually hurt? So why do so many of them seem to be surprised...?

My favourite fantasy...

I have had an interesting response posted on my last entry surrounding a story I wrote a long time back. It made me start to think more about the varieties of media we use in the CP scene. At one level video is the most powerful, then images and then text based stories. However, on another level, the "old" text based approach has some advantages - it allows the writer not to describe things too much and therefore to leave the reader to imagine what the girl looks like, what the surroundings are like, how she's dressed and so on. There can be a few pointers, but the reader inserts their own preferences in a way that can't be done in photo-stories and videos. Let's consider what might be my ideal scenario for example.

I guess for me the ideal fantasy surrounds an attractive looking girl, tending towards the sweet and innocent rather than “in your face” sexy. I’d tend to dress them as I see schoolgirls dressing today. That seems to be largely white or pale blue blouse/shirt and maybe a blazer and loosely knotted tie, over either a pair of buttock hugging trousers or very short grey/black/navy skirt over black tights and flat shoes. I can stretch to bare legs with a short skirt in the summer and maybe white ankle-socks but I can’t believe that schoolgirls have worn stockings and suspenders or high heel shoes for school for rather a long time and the stories that work best for me are ones where I see a girl in the street on her way to school and wonder “just suppose that had happened to her…” I also consequently favour minimal jewellery and makeup and I’m really not into tattoos and piercings.

I like to see them before the offence, to get an idea of what they're like, committing the offence so we know why they are to be punished, getting lectured, getting punished and then reflecting afterwards. As we're talking of a school setting, it's likely to be a cane, slipper, ruler or strap - just maybe the hand. It's not likely to involve dropping trousers or knickers - it just might, at a push, involve bending over and showing her knickers. It doesn't involve a warm-up process of gradually moving towards the serious part of the punishment - schools weren't interested in "warming-up" - they were interested in punishing hard. Of course, in the aftermath, we may get to see the marks on her bottom as she examines the damage in the sanctuary of the loo or her bedroom...

Now of course I’d get bored with no variations and therefore there is a skill in coming up with credible stories that cause the girl to be differently dressed – sports events, fancy dress, coming home late from a party, screwing up at work, just plain annoying her boyfriend and so on.

The key things, is that although I expect people reading this blog have some interest in CP (if not, you've wandered into the wrong place...) yet probably everyone reading would either reject that fantasy completely or would want to make changes for their ideal. Let's keep getting the great photo and video stuff, but let's not neglect the old story telling as well - it gives us all a chance to add our own imagination to the scene.

Is it about asserting some control?

I was reading a piece in the newspaper (The Guardian, 16th July 2007) written by a lady called Julie Bindel who was writing about someone she had known at school and who was recently convicted of a brutal murder. Now it's an interesting piece in it's own right but the bit that grabbed me was when Julie is talking about how both of them were often getting into trouble at school.

"Often, Ashdown and I would find ourselves outside the head teacher's office to be punished for our various antics. I remember one particular day when Ashdown came out of the office having been caned on his bottom. I was next. "They don't cane lasses on the backside," he advised "so go and put plenty of soap on your hands - it hurts less." It was sound advice, coming from someone who knew."

The idea that having soap on your hands would make a caning hurt less seems rather far-fetched to me but I've heard of similar ideas in the past, all of which seemed to me to be doomed to failure. However, perhaps there's something else to it. After all, part of the experience of being summoned to the head teacher's office and made to hold your hand out to be caned is about a very painful experience that you may not want to repeat. But the other part is about the establishment and it's authority and the fact it is able to make you do something to it's instructions. The rebellious schoolboy or schoolgirl who's been doing things the school disapproves of is forced into a position of acquiescing to their control.

And perhaps that's where the soap thing comes in. I don't believe it lessens the pain, but it may make you feel better - it's like saying you've not done exactly what they've ordered you to do - you're still rebelling and they don't even realise it.

On a Serious Note - Please Read

I've thought hard about this. It's way, way off topic for my blog. If you find it offensive - well, no - I'm not actually going to apologise. I think it's the most important message to get out and I don't care if people feel it's not an appropriate way to go about it.

I've just sat in my room looking at two extraordinary websites. The first, http://www.helpnazanin.com/ was created to highlight the plight of Nazanin Fatehi in Iran. At the age of 17 she was attacked by three men who tried to rape her and in the struggle she killed one of them. She was subsequently charged with murder and sentenced to death by hanging. The campaign to save her is a remarkable story that, in January 2007, was ultimately successful. She is now free - trying to rebuild her life - and trying to get an education.

Many others are still not so fortunate. The second site is http://www.stopchildexecutions.com/ - although Iran has ratified Article 37(a) of the UN Convention on the Rights of the Child which states "[No] capital punishment... shall be imposed for offences committed by persons below eighteen years of age", there are many in jails in Iran right now who have been sentenced to death for crimes committed while they were under 18. In some cases the authorities seem to keep them in jail until they're 18 and then try to justify carrying out the sentence - in others there is evidence they have lied about the age and carried out the sentences.

I sat and read Nazanin's story in tears. By the time I had watched the video on the second site - as well as more tears - I felt I had to say something and do something.

No - this isn't the right place but I don't care. If people read this site for their pleasure, then perhaps a few will take the trouble to look at these other sites and also commit to taking action to stop the executions of children.

Please - do whatever you can. The story of Nazanin shows that we can make a difference.

Hotel Service

Don't you just love it when you get fantastic service at a good hotel, You check-in, go to your room and find that somehow they've anticipated just exactly what you need...

There we are, waiting for me. How on earth did they know?

How do they train these people? Are they psychic?

They had to have known that my suit jacket had got dusty the day before and would need a vigorous session with a fluff remover...

Oh wait! Were you thinking something else perhaps???

Cruel and Unusual

On the very rare occasion at school when I was kept in after class for half an hour or so for some terrible crime like talking, it seemed a very long time and very boring. However the French have managed to take things a massive stage further with a punishment so awful it beggars description and which it is inflicting on people who've done nothing wrong.

It's called Terminal E at Paris Charles de Gaulle Airport and it was opened last month by their new President Sarcastic. Okay so there's loads of shops but nobody is shopping in them because apart from perfumes they don't sell anything that you would want. And if you're flying posh class there's a huge new lounge with unlimited supplies of free alcohol. However for snacks there are crisps, plain biscuits, little sponge cakes and.... well more crisps.

Believe me, after four and a half hours I was climbing the walls. Perhaps they should have sent Paris Hilton there. I'm sure she'd have fallen for it with the free alcohol package but it really is deceitfully inhuman.

Staying legit

I doubt that anyone reading this could honestly say that they don’t have some images or videos stored on disc somewhere that they didn’t actually pay for and weren’t being offered as freebies by the original owner as a “taster” for what their site offers. However, we also all know that if everyone keeps on pirating and sharing freely around their favourite spanking pictures and films, so the producers aren’t getting paid and they’re going to give up. Which is a shame because the quality from companies such as Xerotics, RealSpankings, RGE-Lupus, Firm Hand and so on is superb. I don’t want to be left with just poor quality amateur materials. So the answer is to pay for it?

The trouble is I don’t want my credit card company to have a record of me spending money with such companies although I can just about stand having an intermediate third party such as Paypal involved. However, I don’t want to risk having material seized by over-zealous customs and while it’s often not convenient to have mail delivered to my home address, I don’t want to risk adult material being sent to my work address just in case someone else gets hold of it. Any I don’t much want to give the companies my real name either. So the solution is to go into a shop and pay cash for it?

Notwithstanding the restrictions on what can be sold, even in licensed premises, there has been some sign that things are becoming a bit more relaxed in the UK lately. However, when I was last in London, while there were plenty of CP related DVDs on sale, they tended to fall into one of two categories. Some are produced by companies that make a variety of adult material and aren’t really into the spanking scene and don’t understand it – they don’t appreciate the importance of a story and they can’t imagine a scene that doesn’t quickly move to sex. The others, from companies like those I listed above, judging from the packaging, appear to be mostly pirated. If I could be a genuine legal copy of their films in the shops I would, but if all I’m doing is giving the money to some grubby intermediary who has probably found a copy of the film on the internet and run a few copies off on to DVDs then, frankly, I’d rather just download them myself in the first place.

Studying English Law

English Law is relatively unusual in being based in large part on precedents from other cases heard in higher courts. For anyone choosing to study it then, it becomes a rather heavy task of going through case after case, deciding what the ruling shows and then, ultimately, trying to apply those ruling to make sense of a new case. Students beginning to study the law tend to be given a series of standard well-known cases as the initial basis of their study. I wonder if someone has a wry smile on their face when they selected one of the key cases used to help understand what is meant by indecent assault...

R. v. Court [1988] 2 All E.R. 221 House of Lords
D., a shop assistant, pulled a 12-year-old girl visitor to the shop across his knees, and smacked her 12 times on the buttocks outside her shorts for no apparent reason. Asked by the police why he had done so, he said "I don't know: buttock fetish." He pleaded guilty to assault, but denied that the assault was indecent and contended that his statement about his "buttock fetish" should be excluded as evidence because it was merely a secret motive which was not communicated to the victim and it could not make indecent an act which was not overtly indecent. The judge having refused to exclude the evidence, D. was convicted of indecent assault and appealed, ultimately to the House of Lords.

Apart from the obvious lesson that it's a pretty dumb idea to publicly spank a 12 year old who you have no connection with (and some would say that spanking children is all bad anyway), it does seem absurdly dumb to tell the police what motivated the assault. Incidentally, he lost the appeal.

Smacking bottoms

I'll probably get berated for this one but I just wanted to raise the issue.

Every so often, some poor unfortunate gets taken to court and prosecuted because he's given a female acquaintance a smack across her bottom. Now some cases that you read, you can't help but think that they've gone so far that they were asking for a day in court, but there are many times when someone has perhaps misjudged a young ladies likely reaction and given her a friendly pat on the butt where, at the most, he should perhaps have got a slap across the face and where prosecution seems most unreasonable.

I suppose I'm biased because I've done it a number of times and - so far - got away with it. There's been times when I've smacked someone who was just a friend and most times they've laughed it off, and times when I've taken more of a risk by smacking a work colleague. Is it so wrong? What about those out there who enjoy being smacked - have you ever had an unexpected smack on the behind from someone you work with or someone who is just a friend and doesn't know about your interests? How did you react?

Music to travel to

Currently on a business trip and a lot of travelling and little time for blogging. However, the other day, on an especially long and tedious flight I had my MP3 player on, and I could swear as I dozed I heard an old Paul McCartney number...

Raising money running, seems to last forever,
Seeing lovely bottoms – running raising money,
Josie, Lucy, Dublin.
If I ever get round the course,
Thought of giving it all away
To a wonderful charity.
All I need is a vodka straight
If I ever get round the course.

Well, the cane it landed with a mighty crack – just like a starter’s gun,
And then Adele said to Jean and Amie - I hope you’re having fun.
Bums on the run, bums on the run.
And Kirstyn Gold and Zena Stones were smacking everyone
For the bums on the run, bums on the run, bums on the run, bums on the run

Well, the old headmaster drew a heavy sigh - wishing for a cane,
And a crowd was cheering on the city streets for the spankees on the run.
Bums on the run, bums on the run.
And Jadie Reece and Leia and Sam, were smacking everyone
For the bums on the run, bums on the run, bums on the run, bums on the run

Well, Pandora was wondering just what she’d done.
Being sponsored to be caned – but everyone’s having fun.
Bums on the run, bums on the run

(With apologies to Sir Paul and those girls with names that my limited poetical skills couldn't weave in there - well done all of you.)

Final naughty girl revelations

This is going to be my final batch (for now) of girls being exposed by their friends in front of the camera. Feedback please if you want me to keep an eye open for others.

I always like these ones where people put themselves in a position where they suddenly realise they can't do much to reduce their humiliation.






And this is a corker - why is she hanging on to the pillow as if her life depended on it when common sense suggests it's the top of her pants she should try to hang on to?




This is one heck of a wedgie but the perpetrator is also showing rather a nice cleavage - the sort of picture you have to hope is going to turn out to be part of a series.





Had to put this slightly different one in before signing off - there are masses of party pictures on the web with groups of beautiful young girls posing for the camera in this sort of leaning forward posture, but not that many where one of the girls, realising her friend isn't wearing bra, has the sense of good timing to pull the other girls top down just as the picture is taken.


Last, but by now means least, if you've not been convinced by some of the earlier pictures, this is my personal favourite in the category. Lovely expressions, nice figures, a very lovely bottom - and two girls who both deserve to be put over someone's knee (preferably mine) and taught how to behave in public.

Third naughty girl revelations

Another typical swift de-bagging at a girl's night in - hope the gesture was reciprocated.







Love this very public beach humiliation - hope she had something to change into! (not)






Two together here where I'm not even sure they've noticed yet. A charming innocence about the second one like he's almost doing it without realising and she just innocently forgot her panties this morning...






This last one for now must definitely know but can't do much about it. If I'd been the photographer I would have felt obliged to giver her a couple of hard smack because I was always taught a bit of red is good in a photo.

More revealed

Here's another batch of girls being exposed by their so-called friends.



This one doesn't seem to be bothered - she obviously knows about the camera but is still laughing about it. Doesn't presumably care much about there being men present in the room either.







Looks like a university dormitory or hall of residence and a student prank. This one has managed to keep her face off-camera at least but I think it's going to cost her because it looks as if she's about to get a smack on her bum - not the sort of size target it would be possible to miss!




This is what happens when you're seriously outnumbered - rather suspect she's going to lose rather more than she has already.


Love the expression on this cheeky little bee's face! One of those times when I really hope she got her comeuppance and ended up with a real sting in her tail!



And this is a very public wedgie for this girl on holiday. Obviously a set up between the other girl and the photographer. I don't think she saw it coming although there are plenty of other people around to enjoy the spectacle.

Quite revealing!

I've often been surprised how many lovely girls are willing the flash their breast or other parts of their bodies when someone is standing there with a camera because they just have to know it's likely to wind up on the internet and everyone including their parents might get to see it.

However, there are also some excellent pictures out there where girls have been exposed to the camera lens by their so-called friends and I just love those.

Here's part one of my collection - I'll post three more parts over the next few days.


This looks like what just started as a fun fight at a sleepover which then got a bit out of hand - one of things with these shots is I always feel that if you'd do this to a friend you couldn't really complain if someone then did it to you - I'd sure like to see the girl on the right lose her denim skirt!




Unfortunately I think this girl reacted just in time to stop her shorts coming right down but given the very public location, perhaps it's just as well.









This one was clearly not in time to stop her trousers being tugged right down and she's left holding the T-shirt in place to avoid us seeing any more.









Two more outdoor ones to finish this batch - there seems a sort of justice going on in the first one as the girl who is set on exposing her friend's little white ass looks set to give the photographer a good look up her own skirt at the same time - if only the photographer had the camera switched to sequence mode!



And last for today's post - a rather chilly looking evening to have your bum exposed.

Variety is a spice...

I thought the myriad of CP oriented publications and websites had thought of every possible punishment until I happened on one of the anti Corporal Punishment websites and found myself reading a report into domestic corporal punishment in Vietnam.

Physical punishments mentioned by children in Viet Nam included hitting with implements, punching, kicking, pinching, twisting body parts, throwing objects, electric shocks. At home, punishment by family members included: arm broken, beaten on the buttocks until raw then a mixture of salt and chilli rubbed on the wounds, beaten with a thick stick, ear twisted until torn and bleeding, electrocution with wires, excess labour, kneeling on the spiky peel of durian fruit, standing naked outside the house, standing under the weight of a buffalo yoke, head repeatedly submerged in water, hanging on a tree and beaten until unconscious, hung on an electricity pole, hung on a wall by the hands, hung upside down from a tree, tied next to an ants nest, tied to a bicycle and forced to run alongside it, whipped while hanging from a tree. Punishments by teachers at school included: confined under a bed, standing in front of class and being denounced by classmates, hit on forehead by ruler thrown by teacher, hit on head by box of chalks, not being allowed to eat, stripped naked and beaten on the back, two children forced to slap each other on their cheeks. Of those who were hit, 50% were hit with an implement (34.8% with sticks etc, 15.2% with a whip, lash or belt), 45.5% were slapped with the hand, 4.5% kicked. Of those children who mentioned body parts where they were hit, 26% reported being hit on the head and neck, 27% on the limbs, 11% on the back, 13% buttocks, 5% chest, 4% stomach, and 1% genitalia. In terms of the settings in which children experienced punishment, the research found that in the home 81% of children experienced physical punishment, 19% emotional punishment, while in school 69% experienced physical punishment and 31% emotional.

As the saying goes, don't try this at home!

Start how you mean to go on!

The web is full of images of birthday spankings and fun spankings at parties but these ones that I found today were just a bit different - wedding spankings! What better time to make sure that the groom asserts who's going to be the boss!

Other blogs

People often post about new blogs they've come across but I want to post today to pay tribute to two of the more established ones for services above and beyond the call of booty!

First up is the splendid Bums on the Run site. The girls have done a great job with the site to draw attention for their charity run to raise money for cancer research with masses of photos and auctions to make it worth keep returning. They may have already hit their target but if you haven't visited lately then you're missing some great stuff and you may feel inspired to make a further donation to encourage them in their training. I can't bear to think it will soon be over and will they continue to maintain the site...?



Second one for a mention is the long established Spkbryan's Blog.



He does a fantastic job trawling the web for spanking photos - must practically be a full-time occupation. There are masses of new ones appearing all the time. I especially liked the next two. Most of the "fun spankings" on the web involve one "young thing" smacking another "young thing" so it was refreshing to see an "oldie" giving a young girl a spanking and it still being regarded by everyone as fun.

Egyptian approach

I thought it would be interesting to search around for factual information about how corporal punishment is being used today, and came across a 1998 report from Egypt that seemed quite extraordinary.

A substantial proportion of boys (79.96%) and girls (61.53%) incurred physical punishment at the hand of their teachers. Teachers were using their hands, sticks, straps, shoes, and kicks to inflict such punishment without sparing a part of their students' body. Physical injuries were reported by a significantly higher percentage of boys the most common being bumps and contusions followed by wounds and fractures. Moreover, it was only among boys that serious injuries such as loss of consciousness and concussion were encountered.

...analyses revealed that corporal punishment was more likely to be used in preparatory schools and on boys. Such means of punishment were also predicted by students' undesirable behavior as well as their poor achievement in academic tasks.

The proportion of pupils punished was quite staggering in itself but the methods and consequences are breathtaking. Whatever the arguments for and against school corporal punishment, I can't imagine anyone condoning this mindlessness.

Questionnaire

I was tagged a few days ago for this questionnaire thing that's going the rounds and initially felt I ought to join in. It's the one that starts with...

1. What are three of the stupidest things you've done in your life?

I drafted answers to about half and then stopped, I hope people don't mind but I'm not going to finish. There are times in everyone's life, I'm sure, when you things are just getting to you, you start to look inwards, and really don't want to share deeply personal stuff. Now is one of those times. I could make something up but what's the point? I'll share what I feel comfortable sharing but one of the questions in this set took me a bit too close to something I'm having trouble coming to terms with. Sorry guys and gals.

Switching and self spanking

When I changed school at the age of eight to an all boys private school I found myself in an environment where teachers routinely doled out minor corporal punishment within the classroom. For most of us this was a fairly new position to be in and I think many of were a bit apprehensive about the possibility of being called to the front of a class and whacked - certainly I was worried about whether I would take my punishment well. Now, with hindsight, it's obvious that these punishments were largely symbolic and not intended to cause significant physical discomfort. However, a result of our concerns meant that several of us "played" at giving each other "beatings" - for instance I had a particularly heavyweight wooden ruler at home which I thought would be rather effective and I brought it in to give some friends the chance to experience it across their trousered backsides. Most people lost interest after a few weeks but I was now hooked. I realised that there was a potentially huge gulf between what you felt if a fellow eight-year old smacked you for fun compared to a fully grown adult hitting you as a punishment.

I moved on to self-inflicted punishments in the privacy of my bedroom whenever I had the house to myself. This gave me the chance to try a variety of implements although actually getting them to land with much force in the right place was far from easy. I quickly moved on to taking my trousers and underpants down and the self-punishments increased in severity. Now I have to emphasise that I have never had a significant submissive side. Although the fear of a classroom punishment may have started the interest. I was now more interested in knowing what it would feel like if someone else - preferably a member of the opposite sex was on the receiving end of a punishment given out by me.

Does that make me a switch I wonder? I tend to think not although I did get some sort of pleasure from the sensation I was always imagining it was someone else that was feeling it.

And, however good someone gets at, I don't think self-spanking can ever replicate a punishment administered by someone else - it's not just about angles and getting a good swing. It's like trying to tickle yourself - it just doesn't work. I think the very special thing about being on the receiving end of a good hiding is that you're handing over control to someone else - they determine the pace, the individual force of each stroke, and, most crucially, the timing.



Take the image on the right - four fairly hard strokes of the riding crop on a bare butt is quite a tingler at the best of times and in this instance, the first and third landed on exactly the same spot and the second and fourth did as well. And, yes, it did hurt - for all of about five seconds.

As a result, although I still maintain that I'm not really a switch, I'm sure that one day I may succumb to visiting someone to really punish me so I find out how it feels when I'm not in control.

In my early twenties I hung around with a mixed group where it wasn't too uncommon for one of the guys to give a girl a playful swat on the rear (and, very occasionally, one of the girls would swat a boy). We were at a birthday party and one of the girls who I had a bit of a crush on played a prank on me. I responded by giving her a single swat across the behind over her thin summer skirt. Now it wasn't the first time I'd smacked her, she clearly saw it coming and made no attempt to stop it. However, what she didn't know was that someone else had also just played a trick on me and she pushed me over the edge - I was genuinely annoyed, and I smacked her bottom just as hard as I could. Next thing I saw someone else comforting her and she was wiping a tear away from her face. Okay, so it was a bit mean of me perhaps, but however hard it was just one smack on her bottom with a skirt and (presumably) a pair of knickers in the way. I'm sure it stung a bit but her reaction was much more to do with her not being in control and getting more than she was expecting.

Newly discovered website

I'm always interested in fantasy based on recreating real punishments and I really appreciate authenticity - hence sites that try to capture information about real-life punishments in the past are always worth a look. I have no idea how long the Approved School Website has been in existence although there are messages on it's forum dating back to 2004. There isn't a huge amount of content but perhaps a little extra publicity might bring more contributions to this interesting resource.

Major moments

Maybe my interest in spanking and corporal punishment helped point me in the direction of an academic career - once I was in the sixth form at school (16 years old - would now be classed as year 12 in UK) we had quite a bit of free time and I often used it to visit the local library for research purposes. It might have served me better had Corporal Punishment been one of the subjects I was supposed to be studying. I especially remember the excitement when i cam across Ian Gibson's book The English Vice. It was fascinating in itself but was the first real point of discovering that a lot of people shared my interests. (Unfortunately I'm going to be unable to post for around a week - be back then and I'll save up some ideas for when I get back.)

Rubbish holiday snaps

I generally regard myself as quite a good photographer, but I found some old holiday pictures the other day that suggest otherwise. I mean why on earth did I want a photograph of a load of people I don't know making their way up some steps in a Greek temple?
And why did I keep a slightly out of focus picture of someone standing by a tree? Or, worst of all, a patch of tarmac? And while this fountain in Dubrovnik is quite attractive, it's a shame the angle didn't allow me to take it all in.
As for this, I simply have no idea what it was meant to be a picture of...